Pregnancy after miscarriage

[Claire78564]

Hi,

So I’m relatively new on this site. A couple of weeks ago I posted to discuss bleeding which i’d had at 5 weeks pregnant. This was my first pregnancy. Sadly it turns out that the bleeding was a miscarriage. I am devestated and it’s left me with no confidence in my body whatsoever. I had an ultrasound which showed aside from the miscarriage, everything else was in good working order and there were no cysts or issues. I was tested for infection and that came back clear. They told me the miscarriage was nothing I had done, probably just an abnormality with the baby. I’m still sat here despite that worrying it’s going to happen to me again. We have been given the all clear to try again and I did a pregnancy test yesterday which came back negative so my body has pretty much gone back to the way it was. I’m just wondering if anyone can offer their experiences of miscarrying and getting pregnant again after this. With this miscarriage relating to my first pregnancy I’m so scared it will happen again with the second. Thanks xx

Hi @Claire78564

I miscarried my first ever baby in August 2018, I got pregnant again in October 2018 and am currently 18 weeks with baby! I understand how scary it is. I now put it down to my body just wasn't prepared or ready. It's quite a common thing to have a miscarriage first pregnancy which I never knew before. As much as I hate saying it as I hated it when people said it to me, relax. Listen to your body and you'll fall again soon. Xx

Thanks Delilah7. Congratulations, I’m happy to hear your second has been much better for you. I’ve been reading a lot on the matter. I’m hopeful that I will ovulate soon enough and catch again. Did you have any bleeding with your second pregnancy? I guess my concern is I don’t know what to expect. About 5 days before I miscarried I had a bleed which I mistook for a period. They don’t know why this happened. I’m just hoping the next one goes well. Thanks for the advice xx

Hi. I'm so sorry, it is such a difficult time. I had my first pregnancy in August 2016 and miscarried at just over 5 weeks. I was heartbroken. I caught again almost straight away in October 2016 and my beautiful 19 month old son was born in July 2017. I'm now currently 10 weeks pregnant with baby 2, no miscarriages since the first. I was told it is apparently quite common to experience an early loss with your first pregnancy, and that lots of women won't even realise and just think their periods are late.
Take your time, be kind to yourself and I wish you the best of luck. Your time will come (hopefully soon!) x

Thanks squidge, your words are encouraging. Congratulations on both your babies. Its comforting to know others have been through these things and have come out the other side smiling. We’re you scared when you caught after the miscarriage? I’m just worried i’ll Start bleeding again and i’ll Go through this again.

Thanks, xx

@Claire78564 nope I've not had any bleeding thank god but you'll defo be worried up until the 12 weeks. It's nerve wracking. I got hyperemesis which is severe sickness so that took my mind off it! 😂 xx

Hi @Claire78564

Sorry to hear about your loss, I also had a mc in November - I was around 7 wks. It was my second pregnancy (I have a 4 yo) and I felt exactly the same, so devastated and also that my body had failed in some way. The first week or 2 I get awful, but I did start to see the light st the end of the tunnel and accept it was just part of life. The doctor at epu told me to remember often miscarriage is your body doing the right thing, not the wrong thing - although it doesn’t feel like that!
3 months on I’m now 5wks pregnant again. I’m feeling anxious and obviously worried it might happen again, but have to remember statistically I’m no more likely to have another mc then anyone else and I’m trying to think positive.
It’s such a horrible process, but have confidence in your bodies ability to heal and carry a pregnancy. It is so, so common - I know that won’t make you feel any better, but I hope it reminds you your not alone in this experience.

Unfortunately early miscarriage is very common and it’s estimated that a quarter of all pregnancies will end in misccariage. It sounds shocking and because it’s not something that women tend to talk about you just don’t realise how common it is. Not that it makes it any easier to go through or deal with. But the main thing is it’s definitely nothing you have done to cause it and as a PP said it is likely due to there being something wrong with the baby and your body is doing the right thing. I had an early miscarriage at 5w in October. It was my 2nd pregnancy. I got pregnant again straight away the following month without even having a period inbetween and I’m currently 16w.

I miscarried my first pregnancy. It wasn't planned so didn't try again until a few years later but am currently 29 weeks pregnant.

I spent the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy terrified it would happen again but there was no need. It's unfortunately quite common to miscarry your first pregnancy.

If I was to do anything different I probably should have gone for an early scan, maybe around 7-8 weeks for this pregnancy so I didn't have to worry all the way until 12 weeks. They say once you've heard the heartbeat then the risk of miscarriage is reduced to a very low percentage.

Best of luck x

Hi @Claire78564

Sorry to hear about your mc. I had one too in August (first ever pregnancy) and now I'm pregnant again, 14 weeks.

We never found out why it happened the first time, so I have been really stressed. Thankfully everything seems to be OK so far, fingers crossed! So as you see, lots of encouraging examples of success after a miscarriage.

Good luck xxx

Thanks everyone. I’m sorry for your losses and whilst you still carry the experiences close to your heart you all seem to have bounced back. I’m happy for all of you to have caught again and I hope that the future is bright for you all. We had only been trying for three months so I know I will catch again and hopefully this next one will go the way we want it to. I hadn’t realised how common miscarriages were until we went to EPU. I have to say the treatment we received wasn’t great but hearing your stories has definitely been a comfort to me xx

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@Claire78564 keep positive and like I said relax ( I hate saying it I really do ) but it happened for me the month I relaxed! Xx

Hi OP,

Sorry for your loss, I also had a MC with my first pregnancy. It had taken almost a year to get pregnant and I was inconsolable. We decided to have a month off from trying. I ended up getting pregnant again within 3 weeks of the MC, (after a drunken night out) we couldn’t believe it!! I’m currently 33 weeks with a little boy.

Only negative thing is, it feels like I’ve been pregnant forever!!! I did have an early scan with this one as I was so anxious but felt much better once I felt movement!

As PPs have said, it’s not your fault and I believe our bodies are so clever at knowing something is wrong! Good luck for when you are ready to try again! X

Hey sorry I didn’t reply sooner, I didn’t see this. Thanks for your reply. I’m glad things worked out for you in the end and all the best for your future with the little one. It’s encouraging to hear these stories I just panic I will get pregnant again and then find bleeding. Just gotta gonwith the flowni guess xx

I miscarried my first pregnancy at 12 weeks back in April 2018. I fell pregnant again in June and am now 37 weeks pregnant

It’s so sad that we have all lost something ☹️. That’s wonderful to hear you have another baby on the way. I really hope this is me soon! I got my period a week after the bleeding from the miscarriage stopped. I wasn’t sure if it was still left over but him did a test and it came back negative plus the EPU decided that it was my period. This has just finished so I’m hoping to catch again soon! X