Anyone else worried about something going wrong but with no reason?

[emmagrace96]

I don't really know the point of me writing this post, perhaps for a handhold though I'm sure there's people who need one more than me. I have generalised anxiety disorder and found out I was pregnant with my second 2 weeks ago, I was 4 weeks then, 6 weeks now, and since being on various forums, Mumsnet, nurture, ovia etc I'm terrified something is going to go wrong with this pregnancy. With my first I didn't find out until 12 weeks so I missed the first trimester completely and had none of this worry, I wasn't as clued up either and I just keep seeing such sad stories and though I am grateful it's not me I'm petrified of it happening. This baby has been a happy accident and I'm just scared something will go wrong, is anyone else in the same boat ?

Hand hold - I am exactly the same and even after a healthy scan at 9 weeks I'm still so anxious! There is a website called miscarriage reassurer that I've found a bit helpful, also just trying as much as I can to take my mind off it. But I know how you feel. Just remember you have a far higher chance of pregnancy ending in a baby than a miscarriage. Hopefully it will get better after 12 weeks for us both

@daydreamdaisy thankyou so much for answering ! I just feel terrified but reassured to know the odds aren't against us ! I'll have a look at that sight you've mentioned, hopefully I'll find it useful x

Me! I'm terrified!
I'm nine weeks and every day i don't feel horribly sick, i worry. I think i mainly worry because the father and i aren't together anymore, and i really want to be a mom, and I'm scared that if this doesn't work out I'll never get the chance. Urghhh.

@Parent19876 yes! I feel that. I had zero symptoms with my first and quite a few this time to say I'm only 6 weeksish whenever I don't have my nausea or sore boobs I'm scared somethings going wrong. The sickness etc is horrid but would rather have it as it's a weird kind of reassurance x

I think every pregnant woman ever felt like this tbh.

I don't think it has anything to do with your disorder, it's natural to feel like something could go wrong as it's something you really want especially these days when things that do go wrong are spoken about openly on mumsnet/google etc.

Just remember that no matter how horrible the story may sound that you have read it makes no difference to what is going on in your uterus..

It helped me to stay offline, to stay away from other people’s stories if that makes sense. If you google miscarriage at x weeks you will see so many stories and it may never happen to you. I watched endless unrelated documentaries to keep my mind occupied.

I also read that women have healthy babies every day and there is no reason why you won’t be one of those women. I tell myself this a lot.

@Bigonesmallone3 yes that is very true ! Thankyou, I will bear that in mind.

@stayhomeclub that's very true also. I will remember that when I'm worrying myself x

I’m around 11 weeks now, and every day I worry about what’s happening in there! I had a strong heartbeat at 6 weeks with the early pregnancy unit.
I keep telling myself that I can’t change what happens, I just have to try and be as fit and healthy as I can be and take each day as it comes!
Pregnancy anxiety is real!

@ChrisPrattsFace I have my booking appointment next week so hopefully my dating scan will be in about a month or so but yes I'm doing that too, lots of fruit & veg and vitamin but it's so hard when you have no idea what's going on in there ! X

I have Hyperemesis Gravidarum and have spent a lot of the time worrying about harm to the baby.
A lot of people know because of how sick I have been, that brings more anxiety!
At my booking in appointment I found the midwife will be my midwife for the whole pregnancy- from what I’ve read a lot of people don’t have the same one every time. That gave me some comfort, knowing I would always be seeing her!

@ChrisPrattsFace oh that mustn't be fun, I've had a nausea and a few bout of sickness which has been bad enough. I feel for you. And yes you are lucky ! I'm pretty sure I saw a different midwife every time until I got to about 34 weeks X

It’s been horrific!
I also know that once this anxiety stops, the antenatal testing will start, then Fetal movement, then birth, then baby! From the day I found out I have accepted that It never stops! (Although I would like it to, its very tiring being a worry wart!)

I felt the exact same. Found out at 4 weeks and am now 21 weeks feeling movements with a proper bump! Hang in there, time will start to fly

36 weeks pg and still petrified of losing my baby either before or during delivery and even after and worried about terrible things happening to me or the baby during labour, as a pg woman the anxiety is understandable but try not to worry just make sure you go to all your antenatal appts and listen to your body and follow your gut instinct if you feel something is not right call your midwives/gp. Good luck!

I am 18 weeks pregnant and worry too

@ChrisPrattsFace my first daughter had reduced fetal movements at 39 weeks and I had to be induced with her so I'm a bit worried about that but every pregnancy is different, I hope you feel better soon ! Xx

@mrshadders this is my second so I'm hoping to feel movements around 18 weeks as that's when I started feeling flutters with my first. The movements are reassuring. I can't wait to feel them again x

@Mscandylamb not long to go for you ! well I hope you have a lovely calm birth and everything goes well which I'm sure it will. It's such a stressful time but you're not supposed to be stressed during it 😩 it's almost impossible to not be stressed when pregnant and yes all antenatal appointment and I'm definitely not shy at following my gut. My daughter had RFM at 39 weeks and then kept telling me she was fine when I knew something wasn't right. They induced me eventually x

@Helsvamp you should feel movements soon which should reassure you. Hugs to you x

Hi I’m only 5 weeks and so so worried about everything. Had 2 miscarriages last year and I’ve became obsessed with doing tests and analysing how dark the lines are and constantly worried as I don’t have many symptoms yet but I know it’s still early days. Me & my OH have been trying for around 18 months and I just desperately want this one to work out for us x

@Lisalou88 oh I'm so sorry for your loses, big hugs. Hopefully this time everything will go as you need it too, I've had lots of symptoms this time but with my first I had none, I didn't even know I was pregnant until 12 weeks, every pregnancy is different so try not to worry if you don't get many symptoms, sending you lots of love, it's such a stressful time xx

What you’re feeling is normal, I’m 23+5 and still petrified!

How are you OP?

@mrshadders hi, sorry this thread was so far down I didn't see your answer ! Now 22 + 1 with identical twins ! So something was off, but nothing bad, just I'm growing two instead of one ! X