Any positive stories after miscarriage?

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Hey,

I recently had an MMC after 2 normal bealthy pregnancies and children. All I can think about is trying again. But I'm so bloody anxious. It was late in the first trimester aswell, I am just baffled and so upset by it all, especially as I had no symptoms at all.

Anyone have any positive stories after having an MMC? Anyone else have normal healthy pregnancies and babies and then suffered a miscarriage? Anyone have normal pregnancy after an MMC? Xx

I've walked your path. This time last year I was 3 months post mmc and felt as if I was broken. I have 2 children both conceived in our first month of trying. I took my fertility for granted. My DH was not sure if he wanted to try again after the loss - I think on reflection he was trying to protect me, we have been together a v v long time and I think he struggled seeing me so low. Ultimately
I couldn't get past it and we tried again - it took longer than I hoped but I caught on in August and was surprised and blessed with a twin pregnancy.

I'm currently 27&6 with identical twin boys.

There is light at the end of the darkness. I hope you get your rainbow baby. X

Hey,
I'm so sorry for your loss 😿 I had an mmc in July 2017 at 12 weeks and we've just found out were pregnant again now (I'm 9 weeks now) and absolutely terrified. For me, like you, I was anxious to get trying again right away but it just didn't happen that way for us. After the MMC I was diagnosed with pcos which has made things harder but the one thing I would say is being pregnant now I worry about absolutely everything. I don't have any children as these have been my only two pregnancies but like you I had no signs last time of MMC and it's heartbreaking isn't it? I can't give any advice really as I have no idea how this pregnancy is going to go but I do understand xxx

You are bound to anxious after an experience like this. My DD had a similar experience, but now has two lovely children. Lots of anxiety on the way to this successful outcome; but it is understandable.

Most people have a miscarriage of one sort or another at different stages of pregnancy in the course of their lives. Nature having a trial run, or recognising the need to let this one go.

Good luck with the next one.

Sorry for your loss.

My 4th baby stopped growing at 13 weeks, discovered at a scan, and I went on to get pregnant 6 weeks later.

Pregnancy went fine (although I was stressed from the loss) and she’s here.

I did see a stat that I found encouraging saying there was evidence of a good chance of successful pregnancy soon after a miscarriage. Hence why I didn’t wait to try. See below.

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-scotland-north-east-orkney-shetland-38144027

Thanks so much for your messages and stories. So sorry to hear that others have had to go through this horrid experience but it's really nice to hear that there can be light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck to those of you who are pregnant again. Xx

Snowflakes1122.. I read this too, even on the NHS website. It does give some reassurance. That's amazing that you pregnant 6 wks later, can I ask, did you wait for a period or just try straight after the mc? I don't really want to wait for a period personally but guess I need to see what the gynae advises on Monday x

I had a miscarriage before each of my two successful pregnancies. I look back at then as my body having a trial run.

As soon as the bleeding stopped after the treatment, we ttc. I didn’t want to wait at all, so I know how you feel.

I have heard they only want you to wait as it helps with dating the pregnancy more accurately. But I’d see what your gynae says is right for you.

We’d suffered 2MC’s after DD was born (and 2 before she was born)

The last MC was in June last year and was a MMC at 10+3 which I’m sure you’ll agree is particularly distressing.

I’m now 23+4 with DD2. We had a bit of a blood pressure scare the other day but that’s well medicated now and they’re keeping a very close eye on me.

It’s really hard, I’m not going to lie and say that it’ll be anxiety free. I’m still a bit of a nightmare no although it’s gotten slightly easier as things have progressed.

Oh, that is rotten :(

I had MC before each of my two, now grown up, children.
At the time, of course, it was the absolute worst point in my life.
Now I look back with regret, obviously, but with none of the heart rending grief that dogged me for six years.

I know I am fortunate.

Currently in for induction at 41 weeks after 3 consecutive mc, the last two were mmc.

I've been where you are, a MMC discovered at the 12 weeks scan after a normal pregnancy 6 years ago. So unbearably sad. I genuinely had no idea. All I wanted to do afterwards was to try again. We started trying again the following month and were very fortunate to conceive again. That pregnancy was absolutely fine (physically, I felt like a nervous wreck though) and resulted in my lovely DD.

I think the anxiety was the worst part of subsequent pregnancy, completely understandably. I was told the chances of a successful pregnancy were higher after a loss and I held on to that. I also paid for a couple of early scans to keep me sane.

There was also a great thread on here for pregnancy after loss full of ladies in a similar position providing support to each other. I found it to be a great place to vent when I felt overly worried.

I wish you all the best for the future x

I had a miscarriage before both of my girls and I fell pregnant fairly quickly again each time. Despite being very nervous, all went well and i calmed down after the 12 week scan.

Yes I had a mc after DC1 and before DC2. Everyone reacts differently but I feel things turned out for the best in the end. The bigger age gap has worked in our favour and we're in a better place in our lives as well. You'll be fine, good luck.