My partner is 36 weeks and baby hasn’t been moving the same

[neilallen1]

is it ok to have bit of advise since my partner got out of hospital last week for reduced movements and a positive labour swob she’s been feeling baby once a day (bearing in mind before she was feeling her all the time) we been back and forth for monitoring/scans on the monitors baby hasn’t even been moving today we seen a register consultant she was very rude even with having 3 midwifes 1 head of ward midwife backing us she didn’t listen! She said scans and monitoring is normal! I said what if there is something that can’t be picked up on on both of them and can only be at birth ! Which she didn’t like She denied to put plan into place even though partner is not sleeping because it’s making her worry too much ! Is it normal for baby to go quiet at this stage she 36+1 sorry about long message just don’t no where to turn no one is listening we’re back for monitoring everyday just very very worrying she has a interior placenta also

It’s normal for movements to feel a bit different as there is less space to move but it’s not normal for them to go quiet.

If you and your partner are not happy then ask for a second opinion. Ring the maternity ward and ask for the Matron of midwives and ask her to arrange it.

Go back to the hospital, baby's movements won't slow down, they even move during labour.

Go back and keep going back if movement doesn't improve, no it's or buts, movement is immensely important as I know you are aware.

Do not leave the hospital until you are happy with movement, make a fuss if need be.

Fingers crossed for you both and lots of luck for when the baby does arrive!

Thank you so much it’s just so concerning no body is listening the register consultant we seen today was awful very rude and made my partner cry I said why even have posters up around the hospital about baby’s movements if your not willing to act up on it ! She didn’t like it and basically asked us to leave and that were to see head consultant next week she was saying we’re to egar to meet our baby no just because other people out there make things up so that can happen but when your being honest they don’t listen I wish there was someone I could complain to we had the head matron in with us backing us up she still wasn’t listening because I nearly lost my head today in that room my partner feels like there’s something wrong but there not listening my partner feels that baby not well ! There trying to say it’s the anterior placenta she’s always felt her ! 😔😔

Don't be fobbed off! If your partner feels that it isn't right please go back.
It's so hard to know what is right and what isn't. I had baby no.3, 6 months ago and I was still absolutely paranoid. With baby no.1 I lived in ignorant bliss but reduced movements was a new notion.
You can never be too cautious in my opinion.
Good luck!

That's awful behaviour on the hospitals part! I truly hope mum and baby are fine.

I would either get to the GP tomorrow (more likely to listen and do a referral for a possible same day scan) or go straight back up to the maternity ward!

Does she feel okay in herself? Not ill or anything?

If you are worried about early labour look for signs like diarrhoea or vomiting in your partner, cramps, pains, discharge etc. I know it's quite personal some of that stuff but at least you'll know some signs to warn labour may be starting.

Every tim your partner feels reduced movements she needs monitoring. If the monitoring is all fine that’s great and you go home. You could also ask for an ultrasound to see placenta function.

Thank you so much we have monitoring again tomorrow it’s just so scary coming home everyday with no answers because she don’t move and my partner has already lost her plug last week when baby stopped moving as much we have been at hospital everyday and there just fobbing is off I just said maybe to ring 24 hour number now because more she keeps on maybe they will listen that we are actually just genuine people 😔 thank you guys for support I feel useless to her we’re both upset and worried

Also you can ask them questions like why aren’t you worried about the movement? What are you seeing CTG that is reassuring? Can you explain what the graph shows?What is the plan if there continues to be reduced movements? Could we have overnight monitoring?

I know this is really scary. I’m currently holding my 9 day old who had several reduced movement days. I found the only way to deal with it all was to get really clear information from the hospital including next steps.

And partner been well in her self aswell ! So we really don’t understand it ! Just so scary as she had a massive bleed at 20 weeks also and that was unexplained too..

We asked them all that today consultant basically wasn’t explaining it she was saying we just to egar to have our baby I said so why is there no movement on the monitor? Why she get a preterm labour and lost pink discharge over a week ago and hasn’t been feeling her properly since considering she been feeling her since she was 20 weeks when she had that bleed she didn’t like I pointed out all the fact even the head midwife took us into side room after and basically said sorry

Ignore anyone who says movements slow down or baby runs out of room - that is absolutely untrue. It's a dangerous thing people often say without being aware of facts. Check Kicks Count website for info about that.

Keep calling and visiting ward/triage if you aren't happy. Sounds like you need further explanation of what they see that reassures them, you both need that reassurance too.

Sometimes baby moves position and then the mother doesn't feel usual movements as strong as previously, nothing necessarily wrong just doesn't feel 'right' if it's a new pattern.

On scans they'll probably be checking placenta function, growth and amniotic fluid amongst other factors, and trace monitoring usually checks heart rate and movements. Have you been able to see the trace graph etc?

If the placenta is anterior that can also affect how movements are felt by mum.

Yes we have seen the heart trace and scans but I don’t know how to read them or look for signs 3 midwifes and a scanner we always see were backing us today but the consultant didn’t want to listen she’s higher then then I’m going to demand to see another tomorrow for the sake of our baby! This is our first and we have had so many struggles in so little Time it’s all come at once I’m not in the best of health either at min which is making this 10x harder we just need answers or somewhere to turn 😔 they just think we’re over reacting or lying but baby honestly not been moving to things she normally does like music hot drink laying on side ect

And this is not her normal pattern or a pattern at all ! Even the scanner knows what a wriggler she normally is

Fingers crossed for you both today OP. Don't take any shit. Take a notepad in and record the consultants comments. Make a complaints to PALS

Just to let everyone know her waters broke the day after I wrote this and she was born yesterday at 36 weeks she’s fine and is 6lb 13oz she’s beautiful and is okay after they realised that reduced movements shouldn’t of been left ❤️

Congratulations! I'm glad that it ended well.

Aww congratulations! X

Congrats glad both baby & mum are well

Congratulations.

Congratulations ♥️

If you can I’d make a complaint about the way you were treated. Not ok at all to be so dismissive especially when your wife knew something was different.