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Planning a pregnancy around a holiday

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dontmesswiththeGC · 06/02/2019 15:11

I'm planning to go to Australia in November for a close family member's wedding. The whole family in the UK is going and we've been waiting for this wedding to be confirmed for years so we can visit my two Aunts (whom i'm very close to) and other family members. However my husband and I want to start a family, he is keen for sooner rather then later. I'm 34 and have no idea how easy it will be for me to get pregnant, i'm thinking we should start trying in May so that all being well I will be around 5-6 months pregnant. Am I crazy to plan this around my trip?! As I said, I have no idea how easy it will be for me to fall pregnant, so should I just start trying now and risk the idea that I may not be able to go to Australia? Flights have not been booked as the date was only confirmed this week but we'll need to book them asap. What would you do?

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OnlyFoolsnMothers · 06/02/2019 15:14

Your talking about waiting 3 months, I dont think it will make a vast difference tbh- you have no idea what you and your partner's fertility is like so I would say wait if the tickets are non refundable.

hoponpopp · 06/02/2019 15:15

Not sure if I’m missing something from your OP but what’s the issue in going when you’re pregnant? I guess if you go in the first trimester you may have some sickness (I didn’t with all 3 of my pregnancies) and I don’t think you can fly past 36 or 38 weeks (can’t remember which). But apart from that why would it be a problem?

Disfordarkchocolate · 06/02/2019 15:17

I'd consider waiting three months but no longer. You can use the three months to get a bit fitter, take preconception vitamins etc. At 34 I wouldn't wait any longer. Good luck.

Hollowvictory · 06/02/2019 15:17

Book the flights.

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dontmesswiththeGC · 06/02/2019 15:41

poster hoponpopp no issue going when i'm pregnant, the question was more around waiting to try to conceive - is it silly to wait at my age and just because I want to go on my trip?

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Hollowvictory · 06/02/2019 15:43

It took me 5 years to get pg. Don't put life on hold.

OnlyFoolsnMothers · 06/02/2019 16:22

OP not everyone has issues conceiving, I conceived on first try with one tube - try when you are ready and able to have a baby.
From what I’m gathering of you try now and get pregnant instantly you will be 8/9 months when you’re due to go to Aus.

carly2803 · 06/02/2019 16:27

Dont put life on hold..................make the baby!!

ememem84 · 06/02/2019 16:42

I think but may be wrong that some parts of Australia have Zika virus. So if you go whilst pregnant there’d be a risk. But on the other hand waiting would mean waiting another 6 months

MichelleM30 · 06/02/2019 17:04

I wouldn't wait you never know how long it may take and while 3 months isn't a long time u might always wish u had started 3 months earlier.

PinkHeart5914 · 06/02/2019 17:09

Thing is some people get pregnant straight away others unfortunately take a while, so if you want a baby the best advice is to start trying. You can’t really plan a pregnancy.

I wouldn’t put trying off for a holiday personally

Frizzy1986 · 06/02/2019 18:19

If its an important holiday (what with there being a wedding) and you don't want to miss it, I'd only hold off until you know you'll still be able to fly.

Justus22 · 06/02/2019 18:29

I am pretty sure you need a fit to fly letter after 28 weeks and my Dr gave me one but worded it in a way they could've had an issue with but luckily the holiday company and airport staff never asked to see it. I personally would weigh up how important it is to you to go on the trip, I have holiday'd heavily pregnant but I had complication free pregnancy, my sickness subsided by the time I went but had I had Hypremesis or spd etc it would've been dreadful, especially that length of flight-sitting for that long could be hard at 5 months plus. I personally would wait until November and try whilst away, if I wanted to see my aunts/family and go so far I'd want to see the sights and do things you can't having young children, I love mine to bits but our trips abroad are very different now as are weddings that we take the children to. Of course I wouldn't change them for the world but you won't get the same chance for a good few years is my thought right now. You might not get pregnant straight away no but lots do so I wouldn't personally worry so much about that at 34. X

Daw321 · 06/02/2019 18:35

As another post says some people fall pregnant instantly others take a while. I'd personally only leave it three months. Imagine it turns out it'll take you a year or so to concieve anyway, combined with you delaying trying that could mean another 2 years yet before baby arrives.

Ilikehamsandwiches · 06/02/2019 18:40

Took me a ruptured ectopic, 3 years and ivf to conceive. You will most likely be fine but if you really want a baby, at 34, i’d get on with it x

notanaturalmum · 06/02/2019 19:22

I flew to Dubai (7hrs) at six months pregnant and I found it quite tough in terms of standing around queuing for the plane, sitting for extended periods of time and needing the loo a lot. I think anything longer and any further on in pregnancy would be hard. So maybe wait a month and then you'd technically not be too big to travel. Think about carrying luggage etc and just all the general activity that comes with a wedding. You may be quite sick and tired a lot so this needs to be a factor in your decision.
I'd take the punt and buy fully refundable tickets.

hoponpopp · 07/02/2019 05:02

Oh I see. I don’t think it would make much difference to wait 3 months. With my second and third we thought it might take a while and conceived straightaway and have DCs very close in age!

pandechocolate · 07/02/2019 07:08

Book your flights, you can't put your life on hold. I did and it took us a while to conceive. I finally booked a holiday when I lost hope, and found out I was pregnant 2 days after. We have now cancelled the holiday as I would have been about 36 weeks.

You can't plan these things, so just go with the flow then deal with things as they happen.

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