Think I'm having a MC, what do I do?

[Gummybear11]

I'm 9 weeks and started bleeding last night, bright red blood, been consistently bleeding since enough to get quite a lot every time I wipe. Just starting to get a dull ache pain. Idont feel pregnant and am convinced this is a miscarriage.
Partner is on way home from work and insisting we go to A&E with two sick kids in tow (they have the flu) . I don't want to go and sit there for hours with poorly children only to be sent away.

Has anyone got any advice on what to do? I can't get through to the midwife team their phone line is constantly engaged.

You could call GP and ask them to refer you urgently to the early pregnancy unit at your local hospital. They should see you today and can give you an appointment time. So sorry OP.

I'm really sorry you're going through this. I'd say keep trying to get through to your midwife. Otherwise could you phone the early pregnancy unit at hospital and see what they say?

If they tell you to come in, perhaps you could go on your own and your partner stay with the sick children?

Call your doctors and ask to be seen. They should refer you for a scan.

Fingers crossed for you.

Unfortunately unless your blood loss is at a dangerous level A&E isn’t really the place for you ( from experience when I turned up having a Mc), especially with poorly children in tow
There isn’t much they can do for you apart from book you into the EPAU as soon as possible (may be a few days). Try to speak to your MW or even phone the GP for advice
Obviously if you are in a lot of pain or bleeding at a dangerous rate go but if not then it’s not the best place for you
Hope everything is ok, sending you good thoughts x

Call 111 and ask if you can be referred to EPU for a scan. There is nothing A&E can actually do.

Does your local hospital have an early pregnancy unit?

Thanks for your help, yes it has an EpU but you can't call them directly I think you have to be referred, doc receptionist says to keep trying midwife team.
Yes does seem silly to go to A & E, my partner seems to think we walk in and they will just give me a scan, I've told him this is not the case.

Midwife number literally non stop engaged.

No, A&E will be very unlikely to give you a scan. They MIGHT be able to refer you to the EPU but you couid be sitting there for a while with sick children and bleeding so it’s really really not the place to go unless you feel you are in danger
Sadly if it IS a Mc they probably can’t stop it so it’s a case of management, which generally happens at home. I actually went Private for a D&C as there were no beds available at our hospital to just wait it out at home with painkillers. I know that’s what a lot of people do but I didn’t want to.
Also, I’m sorry to be the bearer of worse news but in a lots of hospitals (including EPUs) they see ladies having MC all the time and can be a bit blasé about it . After my experience I campaigned for better handling of MC at our hospital.
Anyway, hopefully you and baby will be ok and taken care of properly but unless it’s an emergency stay where you are

Get an emergency GP appointment and they will see you and refer you to EPAU - they'll be able to check you over more thoroughly and do tests and scans. Good luck xx

Thanks everyone my doc is going to call me soon so hopefully she will refer me to the EPAU .
I feel really lightheaded/dizzy and weak but I'm not losing loads of blood so don't know why?! Also short of breath, having to just lie down .

I would call GP back and say that you aren’t able to contact the midwife team.

Do you have any pain?

Sorry cross posted

The EPU at our hospital is supposedly referral only but i sneakily found their number and said with confidence when I called “My GP has suggested I call you” and they gave me an appointment for that afternoon.

For what it’s worth, when this hsppaened to me at 10 weeks- very severe blood loss, clots and cramping- it wasn’t a miscarriage and no reason was ever found as to why it happened. I bled on and off until 20 weeks. DD is now almost 2.5. It was baffling.

Good luck OP. Thinking of you.

Thank you everyone. Yes I have a dull ache but no proper pain really. Bleeding seems to have died off for now. I now have a scan booked for 9am tomorrow. Thanks so much all for your support and shared experiences. I will update after the scan xx

Hoping for the best for you. I bled really heavily with my son. Hoping for the best for you

Sorry it's me again, I am having to take my daughters to the scan with me in the morning. I really don't know about what happens when they confirm miscarriage, will I have to stay for a bit then and there for any reason or will I be able to take my children home and come back ? I don't know about the options I've heard of erpc and medical management etc but no clue.

In my case they scanned, confirmed it and did bloods beforehand so they can measure hcg levels. It took a while. They will send you home depending on what your options are, it's quite intense but that obviously depends on the outcome. Sorry that you're going through this, I hope you get good news x

Thanks Norbert, I have no one to babysit the kids for me, I'm worried about them having to be there

I wish I was more help, I only went on my own so I'm not sure. Although I'm sure my EPAU has baby/toddler toys etc in the main reception / waiting area so maybe they will be able to watch them while you go in or something. Hopefully someone else will be along to offer more insight x

Can't your husband call in sick?

No he can't get out of work apparently, he left work early today and is getting a load of stress from his boss now. Aw I'm sure they will be fine in the waiting room hopefully won't take long x

Thinking of you xx
Best case it may not be mc, worst case it may just be straightforward.
Mine was, I didn’t need any treatment to clear the pregnancy, and just had bleeding for around 4 days (I was 8wks).
Try to get some rest xx

Have you checked you can take them into the scan OP? A lot of places don't allow it.

Are you ok OP? Xx