did you find out the sex of your unborn baby

[Dawn2820]

any regrets in finding out.

i havent found out, told them i wanted a surprise.

I didnt with dd1 but have done with this little one due in oct. i needed to be more prepared and thought dd1 needed to know as she really wnated a girl.
lisa

We didn't with 1 and 2 but did with 3 as we thought there was going to be a problem. No regrest any of the times.

didn't find out with either of mine and was so glad that I didn't. It is so exciting to find out when the baby is in your arms. That's just me

I found out with my DS and this one.. No regrets.. ment I could get organized.

I was scanned every 4weeks last time and this time, so know that the scans are correct with the sex.

DS2 (dc3) due in 12days. and cant wait..

Didnt with DS1 but will do with this one.

yes with all 3 - it's a very personal decision neither way is right or wrong - and don't see why you would regret it if you have made the decision.

I didnt with the first and it was nice getting the suprise though.

Found out with both of mine and was glad I did. Wanted a boy, found out was having a girl and by the time she was born I was glad she was a girl as I had named her and referred to her as a girl whilst she was inside me.

Second time found out was having a boy and was over moon to find we were to have one of each, if it had been a girl would have given us time to adjust before she was born I think.

Found out and kept it a secret from everybody else. Really glad we did as we were then prepared and it was still a surprise for everybody else.

No.

I enjoyed months of pleasurable anticipation, and then found out when they were born.

didn't find out with either of them - having dh grin as he discovered the sex & pass her/him over to me was highlight of both births for me

No, what the point, you get what you get

my dd was a surprise....its more exciting too!

We didn't the first time, I really wanted a boy and didn't think it would be fair to the unborn if I found out and spent the rest of my pregnancy resenting it (not sure if I would but the thought entered my head at least!)

Turned out to be a girl which was great cos I got to find out at the birth and by that point really didn't care either way!!
No regrets there!

This time I wasn't bothered either way and DH wanted to know so that we could be prepared, having to buy whole new sets of clothes etc we need all the prep time we can get LOL

Looks like another girl, I'm thrilled BTW LOl

I wanted a girl right up until they told me I was having a boy... and now, having thought of him/named him/bought his clothes and everything else for months, I could never ever have wanted anything to be different!

Basically, quite apart from being hopeless at waiting for surprises and hating the idea of doctors knowing something about my LO that I didn't, I've loved being able to think about a little person and glad I got my very temporary lip-wobble out of the way months before meeting him (some time in next ten days I hope...).

But do totally respect anyone who has the willpower to wait.

Found out with both and no regrets whatsoever, don't think it took anything away from their births.

Loved referring to them as she instead of it, helped with names and with clothes. Will definitely be finding out with DB3 as well. Cannot wait love when they tell you I have blubbed both times.

We weren't going to - but after a scare which meant that we had to have a CVS the hospital then knew for sure, and we knew it was in the notes every time we went

Held out against pressure from DH to find out until just before the 20 week scan when I had a sudden change of heart and decided I was sick of referring to our little one as 'it'.

I think I now prefer knowing, as I can call 'her' by name and really feel like I'm able to bond with her as a person, so no regrets at all.

As someone said to me:

"It's not a Christmas present, it's a person..."

Too true I thought.

DB
xx

I have my 20 week scan in 3 weeks so trying to decide this at the moment..

I was wondering, has anyone heard of anyone being told the wrong info? One of the hospitals in our area now has the policy of NOT telling anyone, in case it is wrong!

When I was pg with dd1 I asked, but because of the position she was in they couldn't tell. Found out at 20 weeks with dd2 and was please as we were able to but girls things and decorate the room for a girl. But, I am really organised, I can understand why some people like it to be a surprise.

Yes, found out with DS1 and found out with this one too, another boy due 30th SEpt

No regrets at all.

I know someone that was told she was having a boy, and she bought al boys stuff, decorated the room got clothes and it was a little girl. So i'm not risking it. didn't find out with the first and haven't this time either.

Would cause far too much stress after the birth, if they were wrong and i'd got everything ready.

we didn't with ds1, but did with all the others.

I way I see it is that its one or the other. There isn't a choice of 50 so its not that much of a surprise.

I think if you have a preference it's good to find out before so you can get used to the idea either way. As I said on an earlier thread about this very subject my mil thought I should be sectioned for even expressing such a thought (I wanted a girl and got one). It was also nice when I was expecting ds to be able to prepare his sister for the arrival of her brother. She was just two when he was born - came into my hospital room and said "Where is Alexander?" - no bonding problems there.