Failed MAP.. Termination?

[MommaBee97]

I started the pill about 4 weeks ago, I have a 7 month of DD. A week after starting my pill I had unprotected sex with my fiancé, and when I researched it, apparently it takes 2 weeks for my pill to get into your system. So the following day I went to get the morning after pill and carried on taking my pill, and carried on with life. I am now due on my period, I still haven't come on my period so I have taken 3 tests, all have come up positive. I'm distraught. I love being a mom, I have a 4 year old and now a 7 month old but I don't think i'm ready for another baby. Instantly I thought 'I have got to have a termination'. My mind was set on it. But as i'm reading what happens when you have a termination, I cant help but feel heart broken and guilty. We recently lost our house and are currently living with my parents and are not in an ideal situation to have another baby. I also feel like if I have another baby then my new baby will be pushed out. But each time im thinking of terminating, I get a horrible lump in my throat. Has anybody been in this position? What did you do? Please, help!

Hi mommabe
Sorry you haven’t had any replies as yet.
I can imagine your terrified however you have to do what is best for you.
I have had a termination and it’s isnt pleasant, I struggled emotionally with it more so that physically however i did have complications so had to have medical management twice :(

I think you need to sit down and discuss it with your partner and see what he says.
Wishing you all the best x

I just want to give you a hand hold.
Sounds like a hard position to be in.

If you do terminate then it will be because you are thinking of your familys current position. Take counselling if you do and try not to feel guilty as you already have your hands full.

If you dont terminate you will make it work, because you will, mothers are strong. And you have a partner and family. Your baby will be fine, i know many people with very small age gaps and they are fine.

Hi @MommaBee97. I'm sorry you're going through a difficult time.
Have you considered talking to a pregnancy counsellor who can help you to consider your options?
Definitely think speaking to your fiancé is a good idea.

I notice that one of your concerns is that your baby may feel pushed out. I can't say whether that would be the case, but there is under a year between my sister and me, and we have always been incredibly close because of this.

I wish you well, whatever your decision.

I've been in your position. The condom spilt, the MAP didn't work even though I took it in really good time. I still fell pregnant. I had a termination and I don't regret it one bit. I did everything in my power to not be pregnant it was just bad luck ! This was 4 years ago and I still feel the same xx

@MommaBee97 for me though it was a very easy decision and I knew it was the right thing to do. It does sound like you're really struggling and should really talk to someone xx

I had a termination in 2017 and it was absolutely fine. I still occasionally think of that pregnancy but I don't regret it. I wouldn't still be with DH and I wouldn't live where I am now and be carrying my much wanted baby if I hadn't done it. Hope you're ok xx