feeling alone and 26 weeks pregnant

[Kylieemilyj]

since being in 2nd trimester especially i just feel so alone. All of my friends want to go out drinking or make plans without me (going for food for example, which i could do) and its making me feel really low. My partner keeps saying well invite them out to do stuff yourself, but ive tried that before, and its either, oh im busy with this friend or they are wanting to get drunk or have work. My partner also goes out drinking once in a while (hes better than he was) while i sit at home watching tv. I just wish people would make some time for me, one of my friends for example the last time i saw her was before christmas!

I get people have lives outside of just being friends with me but AIBU to want one of my friends or even my partner to want to do something with me once in a while? just a quick message to ask how i am? One girl did a few weeks a go but it was purely because she wanted gossip! I know this will get worse when baby is here

Hi OP,

Sorry to hear about this! Have you stated this to your friends and partner? As you said its not as though you can't go out for food, or indeed drinks with your friends (just stay on the water) while you are pregnant. I don't know what other advice to give you, only I hope your friends and partner cop on to themselves!

Maybe see is there any pregnancy yoga / pilates etc in your area when you could meet soon to be mum's and make new freinds?

There's also the Mush app, which is great for meeting other local mums-to-be.

I second talking to your partner about doing more with you.

I've tried talking to my partner but he says I need to put more effort in to trying with my friends, but I've tried so many times! He also says we spend time together at home (which I love) and we need time apart too(we both work full time too, so some weeks we barely see each other). Stuff like yoga does look good but the only gym in my town is so expensive and I don't even know if they do pregnancy yoga locally to me :( I just feel my maternity leave it going to be worse because I won't even have work!

Is there no hobbies or Interests you have where you can meet like minded people outside of your current circle?

@snoopy18 there is nothing really, my town is pretty rubbish for stuff to do unless it's drinking or charity shops 😂

@kylieemilyj it sounds like you live close to me!! lol

How close is the next town? you may well find something close by, try googling whats on in your local area, or if you have a family resource center talk to them. See is there any facebook groups for mothers in your local aera, if not, why not set one up? You will find that you are not the only one in your position!

Hi, I'm 26 weeks pregnant too. I've signed up for ante natal classes and yoga - both starting in a couple of weeks. Maybe ask your midwife what's available xx I am an older first time mum so feel a bit alone as all of my friends have had their families x