Am I depressed?

[Chinadoll]

Hi guys,
I'm 36 weeks pregnant with my first baby and I've been feeling really low for about 2 weeks now. I'm completely fine when I'm with my husband and friends but as soon as I'm alone, I get really tearful and low. I've just stopped work too and writing up my PhD at home so I'm spending lots of time on my own. I know it's likely to be hormonal and the anxiety of birth and being a mum. I've never felt this way before and hate not being in control of my feelings or understand why I feel like this. Can anyone advise me on how to deal with this? Also anxious that I'll feel depressed after the baby is here.
Many thanks x

I'm not sure I can answer your question but I was about to post virtually exactly the same thing so hope you can take comfort from not being the only one. I'm just coming up to 39 wks with my first and went on maternity leave last week. I'm finding it difficult to do anything constructive with my time and have been tearful in the house alone (though I'm not usually like this) esp today. I don't think the weather is helping as its difficult to get out and do things. I'm also pretty worried aobut PND.
Sorry not to be able ot post anything to answer your question but hope that the fact that you're not alone is helpful.

hi
i v been felin a lot like that latley too, but do tell someone as it may get worse. i v finally went to se my docor who has given me a mild medication. i was worried it will har the baby but he seems t think we ll be fine. i m 30 weks pregnant and everything was getting me down and i was a cling on to my prtner which has put pressure on our relationship.
you should start to fel better when baby is born ere just mad hormonal women lol x

I found accupuncture great - fantastic feeling going in all stressed and coming out on a cloud - it might be worth a try?

I think alot of it is totally normal.
When your on your own your left with your own thoughts and you start to mull things over in your head. "What if this and what if that"

Are you both "ready" for the baby?
If so use this time for you. Pamper yourself, get lots of sleep, long baths, pedicure, manicures, hair cut or even trips to a local cafe with a trashy mag
Take advantage of the time you have left and really spoil yourselves.

I think you'd better speak to midwife to be sure but if I'm being flippant you'd also better get used to not being in control of your feelings...or anything else for that matter. I went through a weepy stage at about that point in my first pregnancy, and tbh I haven't really stopped since. Anything and everything makes me cry and it got worse with dd2! Motherhood was like having a layer of skin stripped away for me. If it helps I didn't have PND either time, I think it's just par for the course but do speak to a professional if it is really worrying you.

Chinadoll - it could be writing up your PhD as well as being pg that is making you feel down - i am also writing up and pg and it is definitely the writing up that makes me feel bad. I would try joining a few antenatal groups, arrnage to meet up with friends for coffee etc and just give yourself an activity everyday and hopefully that will hope. Sitting by yourself everyday isn't good for anyone's state of mind, let alone a heavily pregnant person's!

Thanks to everyone's supportive words and suggestions. I feel much better knowing that I'm not the only one going through this. Catz, hope you feel better soon and is able to keep yourself occupied until the baby arrives! You're almost there!
Skidaddle, thanks for the message and good luck with the write up too! I can't wait until my PhD is over and I can get on with life.

Hi,

I came on here today looknig for a thread like this.

I am 35+2 with my first and lately I am crying at everything.

On sunday DH went for a couple of pints and brought two friends home to see me who I have not seen for a while. When I found out they were coming for some reason I really panicked and when they got to the house I burst into tears. They must have thought I was a complete freak !!!!

I like you have been worried about PND. My mum died in Feb and I think being pregnant has kept me sane but I am worried (probably completely irrationally) that it will really hit me once the lo is here.

Oh, dear I'm crying again .

So we are not alone in feeling this way. I ca ntake some comfort from that XXX