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What are your experiences of telling your boss you are pregnant?

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HattieN · 28/01/2019 12:03

Hello
I just wanted to know what your experiences were of telling your boss you were pregnant and how many weeks you were at. I'm a bit worried...
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thismeansnothing · 28/01/2019 12:19

I told my boss at 21 weeks.

No issues. But she wanted a risk assessment done asap 🤣

Mikewazowskismrs · 28/01/2019 13:04

I told her the day after I found out as I was sick the day of my BFP and thought it was a sign of things to come so wanted her to know (it wasn’t).

I was just over 3 weeks, she was great about it and didn’t tell anyone until I was ready to share the news. She’s been great since too!

whatswithtodaytoday · 28/01/2019 13:22

Told him at 14 weeks, once I had the 12 week scan results back. He was very happy for me - I've been at the company 11 years, so we know each other well.

Nathansmommy1 · 28/01/2019 13:22

I wait until after the first scan, always terrified to say it but need to remember that no matter what they are thinking they can't say anything bad to you about it!

hipstercat · 28/01/2019 13:33

My boss is lovely and was just pleased for me. Or if she wasn't she did a great job hiding it. I told her around 11 weeks as I was working from home so much and missing meetings, so I felt she deserved a reason. She told me not to worry about anything and tell everyone else whenever I was ready.

Why are you worried?

ChrisPrattsFace · 28/01/2019 13:36

Told mine at about 4 weeks, I chose her as she’s the nicest of my three management.
She told the other management who kept giving me sad looks and saying ‘it’s very early so fingers crossed’
Wasn’t helpful. Glad she knew as have been off sick for a few weeks now!

Heyha · 28/01/2019 14:00

Had to tell mine (male) at 6 weeks due to various things. Was lovely about it although very surprised and also kept it as quiet as it needed to be.

TerriB1984 · 28/01/2019 14:46

I was about 9 weeks. I’d already had to have time off for an early scan plus booking in appointment so just figured it was easier to tell him so it would make it easier to explain why I needed time off. Very lovely about it and kept it to himself until I was ready to tell more people (after the 12 week scan when I wouldn’t have been able to hide it any longer even if I’d wanted to!)

Springmummy19 · 28/01/2019 14:59

found out at about 8 weeks and told him straight away. I work for an Italian company and the boss's English was very very basic. Explaining I was pregnant was the easy bit, trying to make him understand that I have to see the midwife soon was a bit more tricky. I told him I had done a self referral and would be off 1 day the following week to see the midwife...he took that as I have referred myself to be off and my last day in the office was the following week.

carly2803 · 28/01/2019 15:20

Told mine approx 6 weeks as i almost threw up on him.

Took it really well after i had finished vommiting.

I wanted to wait until a lot later though!!

Snowwhite23 · 28/01/2019 16:49

With my 1st i told my boss at 12 weeks after the scan. He said oh dear 😕 and asked if I'd be coming back afterwards!

PoutySprout · 28/01/2019 16:52

Told my boss informally after 12 week scan as needed to explain my utterly dippy behaviour. Didn’t tell organisation offficially until 25 weeks as couldn’t be arsed with risk assessments etc and just wanted to be left alone. My risk assessment was done at 36 weeks which was far too late for anything to be done anyway.

Schoolchoicesucks · 28/01/2019 17:57

My boss asked if I was happy about it. I was mid 30's, in a LTR and boss & I did not have the kind of relationship where I'd have been confiding or seeking advice. Definitely a WTF moment, and didn't bode well for flexible return to work!

londonloves · 28/01/2019 18:06

I told my boss the day after I had a positive test (before I told my own mum!) as I didn't want to push beds through a stacked emergency unit. I was around 6 weeks I think. She was totally amazing about it but I was lucky that we had a very good relationship.

SenoraSurf · 28/01/2019 18:50

Following- I'm 14 weeks and have bottled it every time I've gone to tell my boss (I only started this job in September).

CoastalLife · 28/01/2019 18:53

I had to tell him earlier than I'd have liked because I was sick as a dog and not working to my usual standard as a result (and definitely less chirpy than normal). I asked if I could speak to him about something and he said "Of course, congratulations!" 😂

CountFosco · 28/01/2019 19:11

I've had 3DC. First one boss was rubbish and completely disinterested if not a tively pissed off, didn't say congratulation and my last day at work he didn't talk to me at all. I came back to work pregnant again and when I told him I was moved to another department within the week. Thankfully my next boss was much nicer and the job was better as well. When I told him I was pregnant with DC3 he laughed and said 'you need to go and speak to X' who was also pregnant. The third person in the team who told him she was pregnant at the same time he put his head in his hands because that was half his managers all on maternity leave at the same time (we were all due within a month of each other). There was lots of jokes in the company about 'Dept X is pregnant' but he was really good humoured about basically being landed in the shit for a year while we were all on maternity leave.

The nature of my work is such that I told my bosses very early so we could write the risk assessments. Neither bad nor good boss told anyone who didn't need to know.

PRoseLegend · 28/01/2019 19:39

Told my direct supervisor at 7 weeks (due to being sick at work, needing to go home after vomiting all over myself and my clothes and shoes... Ugh). She was very supportive and excited.
Told my office manager at 12 weeks. She was surprisingly supportive (she was not the friendliest manager), and helped out with my maternity leave application.
I'm a social worker, there was no change in how people treated me except towards the end as I got bigger, they reduced my face to face client time and travel time (as I was too big and heavy to do the travel safely anyway, and certain clients could become violent so they wanted to protect me).

stuckinarut2019 · 29/01/2019 08:07

I started bleeding at work around 6 weeks so had to tell her so I could leave (111 advised that I went to a and e - which although they were lovely, was probably the wrong place!).

My boss said "ok well are you going to come back?"

😳

Megan2018 · 29/01/2019 10:25

I told mine at 5+2, but we get on well. I told her informally and in confidence so it hasn't triggered any formal process with HR or anything.
I wanted her to know due to the mc risk (I am 40) and I wanted to be able to disappear without question if needed due to bleeding.

She was very shocked due to my age and my lack of baby interest! But has been very supportive and has allowed me to slow down a bit as not been feeling productive.

I will tell work officially once I am past 12 weeks and happy with test results. No earlier than that.

I'd only tell early if you have a supportive manager - mine really gets why it has to be a secret and is happy to know personally but not professionally yet if that make sense. But the bonus is I have had no issue with time off for appointments.

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