Announcing pregnancy

[yellowdaisyfield]

I'm still a few weeks away from announcing my pregnancy but I'm feeling slightly apprehensive about it.

In work, we are a friendly team. My best friend (both in and out of work) has been struggling to conceive herself for a couple of years. She knows I have been trying for a few months too. Luckily I have fallen pregnant and I told her early on because she always wanted to be kept in the loop. She has been lovely to be although she said she does feel jealous. I know she has probably been very upset about it at home but she puts on a brave face for me. All the team are aware she has been trying for a long time, so I feel like there will be an awkwardness when I announce my pregnancy, as we won't want to upset her or make her feel like I'm rubbing it in. I wouldn't feel comfortable telling people in front of her. I don't think we will announce it on social media, but I'm thinking I might text people to tell them... is that weird? Any other suggestions

If she already knows I would speak with her about it. In my opinion I think it would look weirder if you don't announce it in the usual way anyone at work would. And could look more obvious it was for her benefit which could upset or embarrass her. But I'd talk to her first to give her a heads up so she can prepare herself or maybe be doing something else at the time. If people at work know of her situation I would hope that whilst still showing their happiness for you, they would be mindful of her situation and after the initial discussion make sure it wasn't the main topic of conversation all day. I've been in your friends position and it is absolutely shit to be faced with pregnancy announcements but at the same time it was also shit thinking people pitied me. But everyone is different, this is only my feelings. It's nice that you're aware of her feelings and are considering her.

I agree, as you've already got her in the loop see what she thinks. Realistically unless you do it in a whole staff meeting she is going to be around at some point when you're telling someone. It's lovely that you're so considerate of her and I expect that's why she's being so supportive in return

Aw thank you both for your replies! I know how difficult it'll be for her so I just wanted to deal with it the best I can... but you're right, I'll ask her about the easiest way to let people know in work xx