Nervous to tell partner

[moaningminnie56]

I have a little girl who has just turned 1. When we found out I was pregnant m partner snapped the test in half and safe to say wasn't happy due to the fact I missed my contraception. He quickly came round to the idea and he loves our little girl although we are both exhausted. When my little girl was newborn my partner then suggested having another 2 pretty close together. So when she was 6 months we conceived again and he was quite relaxed about it but unfortunately miscarried at 10 weeks. He then suggested we try again after Xmas. Since then he has said he doesn't think he is ready. Anyway after an intimate night we had sex (I'm not on any contraceptive) and I'm worried we have conceived again as I feel Iv had implantation cramps and slight spotting which I think is implantation bleeding. I'm not actually due on my period until Friday but I think I am going to do a test today....I'm petrified of his reaction if we gave in fact gotten pregnant.

If he doesn't think he is ready then maybe he should have put something on the end of it!

I assume he knows how babies are made?

If you are pregnant then you both made this baby and his response will tell you everything you need to know about him.

That's my thoughts he knows I am not on contraceptive and at first I was freaked when he mentioned having 2 more close together but I have warmed to the idea now. I won't lie I'm not the best mum, it's been a year since my little girl and the moonlight feeds and early starts really take their toll on me and sometimes I moan about it so I know that will get thrown in my face but second time round I think I have a better understanding of what to expect and in my head I want to prove him wrong and I want to be a better mum

This is all a bit odd. Your first post is all about that he wants - didn't want a baby, then was ok with it, then wanted two more, then didn't feel ready.

He sounds both bossy and unpredictable, and I'm wondering where are you in all this? What do YOU want? Because the way you've written it here, you're just sort of hovering in the background, not taking contraception, and it's not very clear what you want to happen. (Other than proving your DP wrong, which is a pretty rubbish reason to have a baby)

I suppose there's no point worrying until you know you're definitely expecting. (Easier said than done I'm sure). Either way though, I think you need to talk about what you both want. I would find it very difficult waiting for my husband to chop and change his mind.

Hope you figure it out op x

I want another. I suppose I'm worrying about something that hasn't happened yet....or may never happen.

Have to agree with @Rainatnight it sounds like he’s calling the shots but it’s your body and life too so you need to question what you want from your life & your long term vision and not just commit to having another child if you’re not into the idea.

Also sounds aggressive snapping the test when it came back positive & then switching his mind like that. Wouldn’t trust it.

Good luck whatever you decide

Thoughts? Was I right?

Yes that's positive OP.
Congratulations! Deep breath and tell him - he can't be THAT surprised if he has unprotected sex, surely!?

@Orlandointhewilderness well that's my thoughts....wish me luck

Yes, defo looks positive x

That looks positive to me. How do you feel about it?

I am sure that like every other Mum you have done the very best you can by your little girl. Struggling with broken sleep and early mornings does not make you a rubbish mum, just human.

I hope everything works out well for you.

Good luck OP. You'll be fine.