25 weeks and in agony

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I'm in absolute agony with my second child.
I'm 25 weeks pregnant, and currently have a 1 year old aswell.

I am experiencing the worst pelvic pain ever, and lower back pain. I am in that much pain I feel like crying. It's worse when I'm laid in bed, and I literally cannot turn over because it hurts that much. It wasn't affecting me during the day at first but this past few days have only just been bareable and I'm struggling to walk without pain.

Paracetamol isn't helping, and when I've been looking online it suggest physio.. any other options or advice will be appreciated😫

Pregnancy yoga or pilates may help?

My DF has this. She ended up borrowing a mobility scooter.

Are you able to have things like your shopping delivered and a milkman?

No answers but I’m exactly the same. 25 weeks, second pregnancy and have been unable to sleep for more than an hour for weeks because of pain now and it’s getting worse week on week. No problems at all with my first pregnancy. It’s going to be a long time til May!

I was like this from about 20 weeks my SI joint had separated too far. It was agony. A chiropractor for me semi mobile but I ended up with crutches and couldn't walk for more than 50m with them. It was awful. On the plus side as soon as I had delivered i was pain free.

I had SPD (Symphysis pubis dysfunction) throughout my pregnancy and was in absolute agony. I resorted to folding up 2 spare duvets and placing them on my side of the bed to sleep on top of, I needed as much cushioning as possible. Sleeping with a pillow between my knees offered me no relief at all and physio left me if allot of physical pain in the days that followed.
Unfortunately I was not able to find a solution but just had to try to avoid standing/walking for too long. Cushions helped allot with softening chairs etc (especially at work), just try to find ways to make yourself more comfortable I guess.

A physio referral made a massive difference to me. At your stage I wasn’t sure if I’d be able to carry on working but I worked hard on the exercises and followed the physio advice and am in a far better shape later on in my pregnancy so there can be hope it’ll get better. One of the things they emphasised was normal things (like crossing your legs, how you get in and out of cars etc) can make a surprising amount of difference.

I had a group session and most of the women there had toddlers. You really have to try and minimise how much you’re lifting your little one even though sometimes you’ll have no choice.

I'm 20 weeks and in the same boat. I spent last night on the sofa crying whilst DH rubbed my back and I had a hot water bottle. Paracetamol does nothing.

I'd invest in a good full body support pillow if you haven't already.

Speak to your midwife as she can refer tip I to pregnancy physio.

I've had to really watch my activity levels for the day- e.g. cap dog walking to 40 mins with no hills, or DH walks him so I can clean, but I can't do both.

In my last pregnancy, I was signed off work from 20 weeks due to extreme SPD. I had joint problems prior to pregnancy which didn't help.
My midwife was great and got me referred to a pregnancy physiotherapist urgently and I had weekly hydrotherapy as well as "land exercises" too. The hydro was amazing as it took all the weight off my joints and the pool was lovely and warm.
They also gave me a special belt to wear if I had to move about to help to hold the pelvis stable.
If you haven't tried the belt and hydrotherapy, I'd def recommend trying it.
Best of luck with finding something to make you more comfortable.

I had this at your stage - SPD. Go see a physio, the best advice I was given was you must always be symmetrical and supported. So no crossing legs or leaning to one side/on one leg, need a cushion in your lower back always and I sleep with three pillows between legs etc. With following the symmetrical and supported rules it’s become bearable - I’m currently 39+4 and my back and pelvis whilst niggly is really ok - I cope with a hot water bottle and don’t need painkillers. I do notice however if I slack off and cross my legs etc it starts playing up. I also can’t walk that far - but who can at 39+4?!?

Finally at your stage I was so upset that I wouldn’t be able to go on working and that I’d be wheel chair bound from the horror stories on line - I’m not, I’m fine! Don’t panic - book to see a physio and ALWAYS be symmetrical and supportive to your lower back in EVERYTHING You do!

Good luck

Also if you can go private for physio. Midwife referred me on nhs at your stage - still haven’t heard anything!!!!