Its like I'm not allowed to relax

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I just need to have a rant!
Im currently 32 weeks pregnant still living at home with my mum (not how i planned my life) my dp has moved in incase anyone is wondering.
Well I'm always getting moaned at all the time by my mum, i work full time 5 days a week all day on my feet and its like I'm not allowed to be tired, she has to be one up on me in that scale of things.
I feel like I'm 5 again, moaned at if I'm laying in bed on my day off, moaned at if I haven't washed up straight away after cooking, but i always wash up when I've finished dinner I don't want it going cold while I'm washing up pans.
It don't stop there shes going on like its her baby coming into the world and what i should or shouldn't be doing when the babys born (i need to learn myself!) I've not had a chance to buy anything for my baby as mums brought it all and it upsets me even though I'm more than appreciative about that, The baby's mine and my dp and its becoming overbearing most days i shut myself away in the room!
Its no wonder while my dp loves going to work and works 6 days a week if he can.

When can you move out?

Time to have a Frank discussion with her to be honest. Nip it in the bud before it's too late

Ive kind of had the discussion with her about this but lead into an argument of me being selfish as i told her I didn't want to raise my child in this house and all i got was thanks how can i afford to run this house when you have gone!
So the guilt card is being played very well!
I cry sometimes about it as i feel trapped!

I had this too. The only solution is to move out I'm afraid.

I was in a similar situation with my 1st pregnancy. It got much worse after DS was born, so I moved out.
Sounds like you need to do the same.

@Magi4 the guilt card was played with me too. Didn't stop me moving out tho. It was the only option. And they got on fine after I left, despite all the guilt trip reasons to make me stay.
You have your own family now, you have to put them, and yourself first. Imagine how confusing it'll be for your baby, when you do one thing and your mother barges in and does it another way. Babies need consistency from a main caregiver - you!

Only problem is money side of things i live in such an expensive area looking at near enough 2 grand to rent anywhere then bills on top and with mat leaving coming up soon me and dp wouldn't be able to afford it straight away!
Im going to be a first time mum and i just didn't plan it all to be like this, she was ok in the beginning of it all and was supportive and just as the months have gone on it's become a nightmare most days! Ive spoken to my brother and sister who are older and have moved out to see if they could talk and out of em both my brother is like not his problem as his not living here!
My dp is the most wonderful human to be putting up with all of this and he doesn't say anything as he don't want to upset my mum in anyway.

I cry sometimes about it as i feel trapped!

That's understandable, but it isn't necessarily true. Could you look at living in a different area for a bit, or somewhere smaller cos the baby will be in with you for a while so that you can afford it?

I don't blame your DBro for not getting involved tbh, I'd never get involved in disagreements between my DM and DSis. Their relationship is their own to sort out.

Me and dp spoke other day and going to look into things properly on his day off even to get help with the council.
I think it hurt abit with my brother as he has only moved out recently and i was always getting phone calls from him moaning about mum and all i needed was someone close to home to tell her to lay off!
Im 26 btw could understand this kind of controlling situation if i was 16 and pregnant!
I just needed to talk to others than friends and family.

What about your DP's parents?
Or you could tell your mum that if she really wants you to stay so she can manage the bills then there has to be ground rules, you are going to be a mum and want to enjoy that learning experience in your own way and need space, although any advice from her is always welcome of course. And if she can't give you space to have that then you will have to move out.