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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

5 weeks and 3 days... SO scared

6 replies

Rochelle27 · 21/01/2019 18:18

So last week I did 3 at home pregnancy tests and they all came back positive!
It's our first child and we're both so excited but I know the chance of miscarriage is crazy before 12 weeks.
I've had both a termination and a miscarriage before and I'm so scared about the fact we have to wait another 6 weeks before it's more set in stone.
HELP

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Rochelle27 · 21/01/2019 18:25

.. I did drink quite heavily before finding out and I also used to smoke everyday, have obviously quit both since the tests ...

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NeverStopExploring · 21/01/2019 18:48

I'm about 5w 6days and feel the same as you. this is our first ever pregnancy. I just take every day that nothing happens in my stride and am wishing the weeks away. it's great you have already quit smoking and alcohol. are you taking vitamins and folic acid?

Josico58 · 21/01/2019 19:17

Rochelle27 I was exactly the same as you, I am now 7+2 and still can’t really believe it.

Re being scared, I completely understand but you just have to think positive. I know there are risks before 12 weeks but you just have to remember that if the chance of MC is 20-25% then that actually means you have 75-80% chance of having a healthy pregnancy!

I kept getting fears becuase lots of my friends have had a difficult time and my mum would say to me “but that’s not you” You do have to remember that what happened to your friend/family/colleague is not exactly what your journey will be like.

I think it’s great that these things are more widely talked about and therefore help and support is much more widely available, but I have to say I think it has struck a fear amongst pregnant women, particularly 1st time pregnant women. For example I can’t bring myself to click on a post titled “X weeks and bleeding”. It just scares me too much. Maybe I am naive to block it out but I just want to remain positive and as long as I have no obvious concerns then I will continue to hope and pray that my pregnancy is progressing as it should.

I also bought a pack of cheapie pregnancy tests from Amazon, strip tests that were about £4 for a pack of 30 so I could continue to test, just for the reassurance of seeing that dark line, but I’m not going to test anymore as I read that after a certain amount of weeks you’re producing a level of HCG that the test can’t detect, so it could show negative, which would totally freak me out, so I’m not going to test anymore.

I also booked an early scan for 8 weeks, so I’m really excited for that. I was tempted to book it earlier but at 8 weeks you should be able to see heartbeat etc and it’s expensive so I wanted there to be a decent amount of stuff to see - not just a fuzzy little blob.

I also write down all my symptoms in the notes folder on my phone, whenever I get a bit fretful I like to look back at them and it reassures me that something is actually happening in there. Ie i’ll write (8am felt nauseaous on drive to work, 10am lots of twinges and pinging in uterus), just things like that.

Hope this helps and remember just STAY POSITIVE. Try to be excited not scared xx

PhoebeBear · 21/01/2019 19:25

Best advice is to start on the folic acid now and stay positive! Sorry to hear about your MCC too.
The truth is.. only time will tell 😊
I also had a TOP two years ago as it wasn't the right time for us, we planned this pregnancy and the 1st December we found out we're expecting 😊 fingers crossed for you ! I have my first scan in 2 weeks and I'm worried too (just usual nervous thoughts )

Keep us updated! X

HayleyHaystack · 21/01/2019 21:52

If you can afford to, I’d recommend a couple of early scans (likely private). I had a 7 week and a 9 week. It was reassuring to me to know that things were progressing as well as they could tell at that early stage. I’m nearly close to 17 weeks and i’ve now had 4 scans in total. If you have experienced loss, as I have, then personally speaking this has worked for me.

Hunkyd0ry · 21/01/2019 22:18

Congratulations!
I’m about 5 weeks and even though it’s my second I still feel like this!
I think it’s just motherhood. You worry about every possibility and eventually.
I am sorry to hear you’ve had losses. I hope this continues well for you and that 12 weeks will fly by and you have the excitement of seeing your little one. For me that’s when I started to relax.
I hope everything goes to plan for you.

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