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Anyone else team yellow?

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ThatPlanWorked · 20/01/2019 21:54

DH strongly wants to wait until the birth to find out the baby’s sex and I’m struggling a bit. We found out with DC1 (both wanted to know) so I am a bit shocked he’s come out with this!
At the same time, I don’t want to spoil this for him, we don’t plan to have any more children so really would be his only chance.

For those of you who have chosen to keep it a surprise, how on earth do you settle not knowing?! Blush

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Megan2018 · 20/01/2019 22:00

I don’t want to know, but think DH does.
Still very early days for us though-but DH struggling a bit with the shock of the BFP (we are pretty old with no DC) so if it helps him process it I’ll agree to knowing.

I just really like the idea of surprise.

Angelmiracle · 20/01/2019 22:12

We didn't find out first time never bothered me at all. But really debated it this time. DH happy either way whatever I want. After 14 week scan I obsessed over it. Put it up her and ingender- got no guesses at all lol. Apparently you can't see a nub. After this week or 2 of obsessing I got over it haha. I've had 2 growth scans on my own and resisted the temptation to ask no bother haha.

Angelmiracle · 20/01/2019 22:12

^Put it up on here NOT her lol

Heyha · 20/01/2019 22:33

Me! I'm inviting any and all guesses as we go along but I don't want any concrete facts and neither does DP luckily. I've a feeling but most of the guesses I've had have been the opposite 😂 based on scan pics, symptoms, way I'm carrying my little bump, which way the wind is blowing, you name it. I think turning it into a bit of fun is helping keep the urge to know at bay for me but I might struggle not to ask next week at my 20 week scan!

Thamantha · 20/01/2019 22:40

We aren't finding out, and no-one in the NCT antenatal class we went to is either. It is personal choice, but we are looking forward to getting to know our little one when they arrive. Knowing their sex beforehand wouldn't change anything for us. I am excited about my DH being able to tell me the sex after our baby is born :)

Ijustwanttofeelbeautiful · 20/01/2019 22:45

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Team yellow all the way for us. The best part of the day DS was born, was DP telling me “it’s a boy!”

Can’t wait to have that moment with DC2 in a few weeks. It is tempting to find out, but that moment is just so special.

Heyha · 20/01/2019 23:02

I agree it's the idea of DP being able to declare the sex when baby arrives that attracts me. I suspect he'll feel totally helpless during labour and that will upset him, so I think it'll be a lovely thing for him to be able to be in charge of that!

TheSubtleKnifeAndFork · 21/01/2019 06:23

It's nice not knowing, a sense of delayed gratification and all that. Finding out feels like peeking at a present to me. There are no practical reasons for which I feel the need to know either. I'll know for a lot longer than I don't, nine months isn't that long to wait in the grand scheme of things.

It's obviously a very personal preference though!

Anondonkey · 21/01/2019 06:29

Team Yellow here! Love the idea of a surprise.

ChristmasAccountant · 21/01/2019 06:32

Team yellow here with dc3 due this week! DH has wanted to know all along for practical reasons but I like not knowing. I have no strong feelings either way this time, whereas I knew with my others.
Looking forward to the surprise!

ICJump · 21/01/2019 06:38

Team yellow here. I love the suprise. This is baby number 3 and I haven’t found out with any of them.

This has been trickier to keep team yellow as I’ve had 50 billion scans this time.

user1471426142 · 21/01/2019 08:08

It was lovely to have a surprise with my first and we’re doing the same this time round. I had a shite labour and it was just an extra bit of excitement to find out the sex after.

looktothewesternsky · 21/01/2019 08:24

29 weeks here and we've not found out, despite extra scans. Having a v bumpy pregnancy so far so we decided we just didn't care, as cliche as it sounds we just want a healthy kid!!

UntilTheVeryEnd · 21/01/2019 08:54

I’m currently team yellow- this is pregnancy no 3 and I have had 1 previous surprise and 1 team blue. I found the surprise on the day was just so amazing as it gave me that final burst to get to the end. When pregnant with dc2 (my son) we found out at 16 weeks and I felt like I bonded with him more than I have either of my others. It was also immensely practical for purchasing suitable clothes, bottles etc rather than neutral.

My tips for managing a team yellow pregnancy is don’t over buy the neutral stuff. It is overwhelming how little there is so just buy bare essentials. I plan on having coloured bottles again so will not buy these in white (like I did with Dc1) I’ll buy a starter pack of ready made to take to hospital, then pick up the coloured bottles afterwards. I have painted the nursery magnolia but left one wall blank ready for suitable colour/wallpaper. I found the names really hard as you’ve obviously to make 2 lists...but my only advice is to not feel pressured on the day to immediately produce a name the second baby pops out. I did and ended with with a name I regret. Whereas with my son I had so much time to thinking about it and I love his name.

For what it’s worth, the surprise is worth all the awkward issues that come with team yellow. That moment is amazing. Congratulations!

Crazyeyes3 · 21/01/2019 09:03

I have my 20 week scan this week and won’t be finding out. It’s my first pregnancy and having struggled with infertility and having IVF it has all been very regimented to get to this stage. Having a surprise at the end will be so lovely after all we have been through to get to this stage.

blondeirishmummy84 · 21/01/2019 09:21

Team yellow for a second time here! DH was itching to know first time round but I was adamant I didnt. It did his head in but he said now he was glad he didnt know. We both felt strongly it was a boy anyway. It was so special when my DS was born and they held him up to me and I saw his gender. I just wanted that Holywood moment! Life can be predicable enough at times so it was worth the wait. I think if we knew what we were having I would have went out and bought too much! Wheras I bought minimal neutral and multicoloured things.

Funnily enough this time round DH doesnt want to know and I have been SO tempted lol. Though I am 31 weeks now and have managed not to find out this far. DH thinks a girl this time but I really dont have as strong an instinct so the surprise again will be special. Like someone else said, its a cliche but we just want a healthy son/daughter.

Justus22 · 21/01/2019 10:03

We've found out each time and where I think I could wait this time my children really are excited to know so we will find out. I've never had the surprise at birth but it has never taken away anything from how special their births have been to me, surprise is still there, you get to see their beautiful face, you still don't know when they will arrive, how much they'll weigh etc. I always saw it as a midway treat to find out I guess, and I loved the shopping before baby came and choosing clothes, car seat/travel system, furniture etc without thinking too much on if it were neutral enough etc, not that I went bright blue with everything anyway tbf. That's no big deal and you can wait to buy a lot of things of course but it was special time with me and my husband before baby arrived. Personal preference definitely but it is still special no matter when you're told. If I had a strong preference my husband would go with it, if he did I'd go with that personally. X

Springmummy19 · 21/01/2019 10:12

we aren't finding our either and it really bugged me at first but I'm over it now. my instinct tells me it's a girl and hubby is adamant it's a bit but we're both happy with whatever we have as long as bubba is healthy.

i did struggle a bit with clothes but I just bought most stuff in white or cream, enough for the first few days and then I'll get hubby to go and get more once bubba arrives.

mommysharkdodo · 21/01/2019 13:31

I'm team yellow!
When we first found out we were having a baby I was totally up for keeping it a surprise when dp suggested it and when we told everyone we weren't finding out they were all so pleased and excited!
The closer it got to my 20 week scan the more I started to change my mind, I know that if my dp had said 'ok let's find out' I would of in a heart beat but I'm also so glad that he never as know I will love the surprise and now I am 25 weeks I keep getting this burst of excitement about giving birth and finally seeing what it is!
Only thing that's bothering me is picking names, we have 2 options for both first and middle name picked for a boy but not one name picked for a girl 🙈

gossipgirl28 · 21/01/2019 16:32

I'm team yellow!

Got my 20 week scan this week but we will not be finding out as I really want the surprise at the end of labour.
As much as I want to know I think it's just a bit more special waiting until baby is born 😊 xoxo

Julz58 · 21/01/2019 17:51

Team yellow here too!! Didn't find out when expecting dd last time and do not want to find out again. Personal choices on both mine and oh behalf. You dont get many surprises in this day and age so we would like this to be one. We kept all our neutral baby things from previous so no need to go and buy any! Long way to go until due date (8th sept) and super excited.

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ThatPlanWorked · 21/01/2019 20:24

I am worried I won’t bond in the same way as I did with my son. I had dreadful PND last time and a traumatic birth, I can’t help but think that ‘it’s a **!’ Moment might get lost in the panic Sad

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DarkestBeforeDawn · 21/01/2019 20:30

I think if anything it may do the opposite - provide a wonderful moment of surprise and joy. I never found out with any of my four (they are all boys). I loved that moment every time. It helped me bond with them.

PhoebeBear · 21/01/2019 20:41

I'm 11 weeks and I don't know if I want to find out either! Ahaha

ChocolateChipMuffin2016 · 21/01/2019 20:45

We’re team yellow, and was the same with DS, I think it’s personal preference. For me it very much that their are almost no surprises in life anymore so it’s nice to look forward to finding something out and people guessing. I also find it saves me a fortune as most gender neutral stuff is ugly so I don’t over buy! And the nursery is fine for either boy or girl. I can understand why people do find out, makes some things a lot easier.
I would like to say knowing the gender will have no bearing on PND but I’ve only ever not known (though had 0 issues bonding with DS) but I don’t know any different! Not sure that helps!