Newly pg for 1st time and could do with some positivity!

[Nymeria9277]

Hi everyone, I know there are quite a few of these posts out there already but I could do with some positivity and advice please!

So I've been with my partner (all these abbreviations are totally lost on me!) for 13 years. I am 31 and he is 45. We decided 2 years ago to try for a baby so I came off the pill and nothing happened. After 6 months we got bored/chickened out decided to stop. We live to travel and thought we could spend the rest of our lives doing just that. We have just booked a (ridiculously expensive) holiday to South America for September. Then (very ironically) the day after we booked it, my period didn't start as it should have and I instantly knew. A few days later I took a test and it was positive. Typical! I instantly panicked. I cried, my hands were shaking I was in complete shock. I told my partner and he was in complete shock too. And, nearly a week later he still is. I am terrorfied for many reasons but I'm trying to be positive and look to the future. Unfortunately he is just wallowing in a state of shock. He thinks his life is over, we won't ever go travelling again, angry about losing our holiday money etc. I understand all of these feelings (and kind of feel them too) but I really need more support from him atm. All this changes I'm going through (my boobs REALLY hurt!) I need to be able to talk to him about and not being able to is making me feel worse.
I guess I just need someone to tell me he will get over the shock and how I can get him more engaged without freaking him out even more.

Look on the travel mad mum blog. It’s one of many that show people continue to travel with children. Is changing destination an option? Check with your local gp/ nurse and they will be honest about any risks in the areas you are staying in. You can travel very late into pregnancy provided everything goes ok.

DH and I are similar ages to you and are pregnant. We too love to travel and have no plans to stop. Baby is due in August and we're off on a long haul holiday in November which has been booked for ages so when baby arrives we shall add them to the booking.

Don't think your life stops, you adjust, or at least we plan to.

A friend of mine and her DH still travel, she had her daughter, when baby was 5 weeks they went to a family wedding in Ibiza, when she was 6 months they went to Thailand for a month. Her next baby is due in April and they're doing the same.

I was on a flight a few months ago back from Dublin and a lady sat next to me with a 1 year old on her lap and a 2.5 year old in the next seat, her husband was on the other side of the aisle with another 2.5 year old (twins!) and a 5 year old. They were on flight 1 of 3 heading back to Australia! If you want to do it, there's nothing to stop you.

Hi, thanks for your reply! We were going for 3 weeks with my due date right in the middle so pretty sure there's nothing we could do. We could book an extra flight and start half way through the route but then would be travelling with an actual newborn, not accounting for being late/complications etc so think that's a no too. There's also zika there so moving forward isn't an option either.
I'll have a look at that thread, thanks again!

@dreamingofitaly that's so reassuring! I know things will have to change but it's great to see people are still doing what they love. Where are you going on your long distance holiday?

My friend inspired us to join them in Thailand. All being well that's the plan anyway, obviously baby changes everything but we shall still be us.

I think you need to have a conversation with your travel operator. See if you can postpone a few months or even transfer the trip to another location. Fingers crossed for you, this must happen regularly.

We took our baby who was 4 months to Australia from the UK whilst I was on mat leave. Super easy and we plan to take him traveling more . It’s so doable if you want to 😊