Pregnant after MMC and going out of my mind 😬

[Kej13]

Hey
Just hoping some of you here might be able to help me!
My husband and I have been TTC for two years. I got pregnant immediately however at 12 weeks we found out I'd had an mmc and we were devestated.

We've been TTC again ever since but I have since found out I have pcos so it's been really hard. I've been taking Metformin and found out on Monday that I am 6 weeks pregnant.

Obviously were over the moon but I can't help thinking the same is going to happen again. I can't seem to get my head into thinking that I could actually have a baby, all I can think is 'how long until it happens again'. I feel terrible for feeling like this and just hoped someone else had been in the same position and has a healthy baby now xxxx

I had a miscarriage, a toddler, a miscarriage and I’m now 12 weeks pregnant.

Just take each day/hour as it comes and give in to the pregnancy triedness when it hits you (tiredness not probably not for a week or 2 yet) because you will need the sleep and you can’t worry and plan when your asleep.

Hi
After I had DS (who was a happy surprise) it took us 3 years ttc, unfortunately I suffered a MC.
I'm currently 36 weeks pregnant now and very excited to meet our durcell bunny (she's a real mover). She's given us a few scares but the midwives and drs have been very understanding!
Take every day as it comes, make sure to look after yourself (a piece of cake every so often can go a long way) x

I had a MMC in Feb last year and I’m now currently 20+5 weeks pregnant. As soon as I found out I started taking folic acid, and pregnancy vitamins, ensuring I was drinking enough water each day and listened to my body. When I was tired I was tired. Don’t over do it and don’t stress yourself out about it. I’d mention the MMC to your midwife if they aren’t already aware because they scheduled me in for 2 extra scans 1 at 10 weeks as that’s when the miscarriage happened last time but didn’t find out until 12 weeks then one at 16 weeks this is in East Sussex to ensure everything was ok and to put my mind at ease.

Congratulations and good luck I hope this one sticks and you get your happy ending x 💐

Thanks for everything you've said above, I know ultimately that worrying isn't going to change the outcome but I just feel like I know this pregnancy isn't going to go full term and iits probably because my only experience of pregnancy is miscarriage? I thought I'd be happy to be pregnant again but I don't wanna talk to DH about it or get too attached to our baby which makes me feel terrible but I just don't want to get all attached and have another loss... Anything you guys have done to get through this? Xxxx

I've been where you are twice (once pregnancy after a mc and once a stillbirth followed by a mc and then pregnant again). It's hard.

From experience, there are two things you can do. The first is to decide to carry on as though you know for sure that everything will be fine. This felt much easier to me than waiting for the worst to happen. The second is to remind yourself that today everything is fine, and try to only think about each day as it comes.

This is different for everyone I suspect, but the miscarriages I had which were the least awful were the ones where I made sure I enjoyed all of the little moments of joy. It was horrific to lose the baby I was carrying after a stillbirth, but I still have lovely memories of the pregnancy, which was comforting afterwards. If you can focus on the joy, and not look to far forwards, then you will get through it. The alternative is stressful and grim and not good for either you or your baby.

I would also strongly advise you to talk to a midwife about your fears. They will have seen this before and it may help you to be able to talk about it.

OK OP. After four pgs and one ds, including an MMC which I think is the cruellest of all, I fell pg when having tests and being advised not to until all the results were in.

It was a nailbiting pg. Bleeding at 7 weeks, anxiety over 12 week scan, at 20 weeks the placenta was 2nd degree, then a severe chest infection, at 28 weeks the placenta had moved but she was breech. Still breech at 34 werks and anticipated to be big. Two failed external cephalic versions. CSection booked at 39 weeks. At pre-op check the day before she had turned. Decided to have a vaginal birth. Longest pg to that point was 36.3. At 40 weeks no sign of coming. They checked me and baby daily due to my anxiety. At 41 I cracked and asked for induction. Went in and had pessary. 8 hours later nada. Refused to have my waters broken. At 7ish they wanted to put up a syntocynon drip and I agreed but only with an epidural first. While waiting light contractions started and wirhin 45 mins my waters broke (real mop and bucket water). Anaesthetist arrived at 8ish. Contractions coming fast. Epidural in. Syntocynon wasn't started. At 10.30 I wanted to push. At 11.30 I delivered an 8lb13oz pink and screaming daughter with an apgar score or 9+. (No stitches).

Sometimes there are very happy endings. Every time I look at her wrapped in long blonde hair my heart leaps and has done now for nearly 21 years.

Sometimes it all comes right but that doesn't mean the pg won't be very stressful.

Be kind.

Thank you so much, I'm so sorry to hear about wverrhones losses 😭 I'm just terrified at every twinge or the littlest feeling sets me off, I'm probably being silly!

Thank you everyone xxx

I found my second miscarriage easier because I thought I was pregnant not having a baby but I think I always knew that one was not going to continue.

Try to manage your anxiety. It is not good for your baby. Do anything that will help you relax, music meditation

@Jackshouse that is exactly how I feel, I just can't picture myself having a healthy pregnancy and I don't know if that's anxiety or if I just know what's coming but I just can't get excited about this pregnancy like I did last time but I was very naive last time...

I'm so sorry for everyone's losses, it's heartbreaking xxxx

How many weeks pregnant where you when you miscarried? Some times a private early reassurance scan can help.

It’s awful. I had an early scan at 8 weeks as couldn’t bare going to 12 weeks to hear there was nothing there again. It helped a little but the anxiety lasted the whole way through for me.

Sorry just to add that I did have a full term happy healthy baby in the end

I know how you feel. I had one MMC followed by another then had my DS. I'm now pregnant again 35 weeks thankfully was so worries for first 20 weeks. Even now truth be told. Try to relax. You literally cannot do anything but I understand in between scans it feels like a life time!!

My hospital were very good in the early stages and allowed me to have as many reassurance scans I needed at the early pregnancy unit. I had an extra two. It did ease my mind in between 12 and 20 week scans.

Best of luck and congratulations xx

I had two missed miscarriages, the first one at around 12 weeks, and I was devastated and felt much the same as you when I subsequently got pregnant. It's so hard. I didn't think it would ever be possible but it was, and it is - my 13 year old is now sitting next to me playing PlayStation and my 9 year old is in the other room building a technical lego set :-) If things hadn't happened the way they did, I wouldn't have my two amazing boys now, which is unimaginable.

I really struggled during pregnancy, I was so afraid, so I don't really have any good advice - I'm sure others will - but there's no reason why this one shouldn't work out; you will get there in the end and I wish you all the best and every happiness.

Thanks everyone ☺️ I was 12 weeks when we found out but the baby had died at just over 9. And I'm 6+4 ATM although that might change with dating scan as I have pcos so really hard to calculate. I hope they offer us extra ones, one before 12 weeks would be so great for us and then I think I'd pay for as many as we could afford after the 12 week scan 😂

I just feel like it might be too good to be true... We've just bought our first house, I've been offered and accepted an amazing new job and now im pregnant too all in January!