Hi all!
I hope your all doing well... I’m so lost :( me and my partner have been unprotected for a few months and I’m pregnant... only just though! I’m around 5 weeks pregnant and he has decided he doesn’t want the baby! At first he wasn’t happy that I took the test without him and I told him while he was in work that I was pregnant! A few days later he approached me and said that he thinks we should keep the baby! He explained that he hasn’t ever had the chance to be a proper father due to 2 failed relationships and he knows that with me, he will get that chance, he is in love with me and that nothing will come between us and that he was happy, regardless and he promises me that! I have 2 children of my own and so does he! I reassured him that everything will be ok, we are a team and we are in this together. He agreed. Anyway... everything was ok for a few days... he was saying how much he wanted a girl but as long as the baby is healthy he doesn’t mind and asking would I give the baby his name which I agreed to! He was asking me would I breastfeed and so on. A few days later we had an argument and it all came out... he doesn’t want the baby, he is so unhappy and my mood swings due to they pregnancy hasn’t helped. He said that everyone has noticed how unhappy he is and he isn’t putting himself through it anymore! Ive done nothing to make him unhappy! He said he feels trapped! I was so upset that I literally begged him not to go and to stay! He told me his mind is made up, I sound so desperate and weak and to leave the house! This was all via text! He came home from work, we spoke and his said that he wasn’t ready to settle down. Within the space of half an hour he went from thinking he wasn’t ready to settle down to not knowing if he wants to continue the relationship to wanting the continue to but the bickering has to stop! I agreed it does as it really does! But he doesn’t want the baby! He isn’t ready to bring another child into the world and he doesn’t want the stress of it all! He said we have 4 between us and that’s enough! I asked would he leave if I continued the pregnancy and he said he probably would :( I understand he doesn’t want the baby but it wasn’t that long ago before we went unprotected that he said he would have a child with me tomorrow! I really don’t understand it all... the whole situation has made me feel so numb and empty! I told him I wasn’t going to continue the pregnancy due to the fact that I really do love him and I can’t bring another child into the world and support the child on my own! 3 children, working on a zero hour part time contract just doesn’t mix! I’m able to support my 2 children now without help, however, i really do think I’ll struggle with a 3rd and mentally struggle also! I feel as though he really doesn’t love me, although he says he does! He said that since I’ve been pregnant his love for me isn’t as strong but he still does love me. He isn’t going anywhere unless we start falling out again! I really can’t cope!!! :(