A little moan.

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Just to be clear, I AM very, very excited and grateful to be pregnant, I truly cannot wait to meet my child.

BUT

I have found pregnancy SO hard. I'm 27 weeks now, I've got HG, started getting having anxiety attacks, now I have SPD and to top it off, my relationship has gone to pot, in a very unpleasant way.

I haven't moaned about it all to anyone because I know how shitty I'll sound, but when people have chatted to me, I've made the odd comment about how it's been much harder than I thought, and today I actually watched two of my "best friends" roll their eyes at each other.

Just so I know I'm not the worlds worst mother, can anyone reassure me that they've found it difficult too (not that I hope anyone is struggling!!)? And perhaps if you've had anyone judge you for being human, we can moan together!

Definitely do not feel bad about feeling this way. Pregnancy can be really tough and as totally worth it the little ones are and as grateful beyond words and excited we are to have them there is often stuff to get through to get them here that you just can’t pretend is fun.

Any one of the things you’ve mentioned would be enough to get you down but with all of that combined you are definitely entitled to a moan.

With my first pregnancy I felt great once my morning sickness had cleared up, I loved it. I’m now expecting my second and to be honest it’s kicking my butt a lot of the time! Which is a bit disheartening!

Have you spoken to your midwife about any of this. Maybe there are somethings that will help with at least some of the problems?

I’m sure there will be lots of other people along with similar preggo woes. But in the meantime I assure you that are doing brilliantly coping with all this, you should try to find some ways to treat yourself, and be encouraged that it will all be worth it when baby is here!

As PP has said, don't feel bad. Just being pregnant alone is difficult, everything you've mentioned on top can make it so much more difficult!!

Your best friends, do they have children themselves? Find it out of order that they would be like that with you, especially if they have kids, they should sympathise with you and if not, have no right to an opinion due to never having gone through it themselves.

I feel your pain OP, I'm 26 weeks with my 2nd and it's hard to say the least😑

Moan away, I'm 28 weeks and I bloody hate it. Puking, heartburn, haemorrhoids from hell, exhaustion, placenta brain, look ginormous, ugh ugh ugh. I'm excited to have my baby but the process to get here is tough and it's ok to say that, it's not ungrateful.

As someone who has paid tens of thousands of pounds, gone through five rounds of IVF, lost two babies and desperate for a sibling for DC1, YANBU. Wanting a pregnancy does not make it easy.

I hope you feel better soon

And hopefully I can join you in feeling crappy soon

Straight after I had DS all I kept saying was "I'm just so happy I'm not pregnant any more"

I am 28 weeks with baby number 5! I love my children but I've hated every pregnancy (why do I keep doing it to myself lol) this one has been so rough the first 20 weeks I had nausea and vomiting and a cold that lasted 6 weeks I thought it would never end. For the last 8 weeks I've felt amazing but then the last 2 days have been a nightmare, I can't sleep more than hour because I'm so big and uncomfortable. And I have a constant pain across the bottom of my stomach and top of my legs that makes walking impossible but doesn't go when I'm sitting either. I don't know if I've over done it, it's baby getting bigger, round ligament pain or something else. But I am happy to maon with you for the next 11 and half weeks as I can see them being a nightmare haha

I had DD1 at 28 weeks. DD2 was born at 33 weeks. But my god did I moan. I was ecstatic to be progressing further in the pregnancy, as I knew that more weeks meant better outcome, but it was still hard. I would have given anything to go to full term, but I was happy for the pain and discomfort to end.

I am currently 34+5 with my first pregnancy and I can say I have found it way harder than I expected it to be. Not just the change in my body but the constant exhaustion the stretching, I love feeling and watching my boy stilling round in there but Jeez does it hurt sometimes and omg I am so uncomfortable all of the time it is just crazy. I've wanted to be a mother for as long as I remember so I'm so excited but I literally want him to be here now so this part is over! If me and my partner hadn't already decided we would only be having this one (he has a son from previous relationship who is 12) I would be saying I 100% don't want to go through pregnancy again!! I know it will be a million % worth it, I just can't take much more!! You are sooooo NOT alone!!

I absolutely hated being pregnant , hated it. Whenever I say that people look at me like but I did. I had HG and it was genuinely the worst time of my life, I felt like I was dying.

Obligatory speech : I'm so grateful to be able to be pregnant and I love my DS to death and would honestly do anything for him, I just absolutely hated being pregnant.

Can't thank you all enough, to be honest I knew I wasn't the devil but I did start to think should I just be shutting up and getting on with it? But that's what friends are there for. And I suppose when I put into perspective, they moan to me about the pettiest of crap sometimes and I have to sit and listen and give advice, and most importantly not judge. So I feel like they were quite harsh actually.

I can be quite grumpy because in between my legs is agonising pain right now 😩 hope everyone who is near the end has healthy deliveries and enjoys getting their bodies back soon! ❤️

Every pregnancy is different and that's something I learned this time round. First was much easier, I had sickness and not much else. This time I still have sickness, major tiredness and hip pain at just 22 weeks. This pregnancy is much harder than I was expecting so I understand where you're coming from.

My point was that your friends might not understand but it doesn't mean you're wrong, a bad person or anything like that for feeling the way you do. Pregnancy just sucks sometimes so don't beat yourself up, just do the best you can.

Hope you feel better soon and things work themselves out.

I can really relate. I'm 28 weeks with my second and I've absolutely hated this pregnancy. I think it's got a lot to do with chasing after a toddler all day as well. But I don't seem to sleep a full night because this baby is so low down it's on my bladder and I've just felt generally more ill and achey this time around. I try not to moan much (except to my other oh) as I know I'm fortunate to be pregnant but oh my god I can't wait till my due date! With my dd I didn't feel half as bad as this. Dare I say I enjoyed and felt great right up until my due date! I think each pregnancy is very different.

I'm not finding pregnancy pleasant at all. And I'm pretty honest with people when they ask how I feel. Shit. Most people are sympathetic and will join in with a little moan or reassure me it will end! I keep telling myself it's all for a good cause!!

I found it really rough too and couldn't wait to get my body back after giving birth. Well, apart from my boobs. They're still on loan to my LO 😂

I'm 26 weeks with my first and I've found pregnancy to be way harder than I expected. Was sick until 14 weeks and have had unbearable rib pain since 20 weeks that I don't think is going to go away.

I was actually excited about the second trimester because it's supposed to be the most enjoyable time but that hasn't been the case at all. I can't even prepare for the baby the way I wanted to because I'm in too much pain.

Don't feel bad, I know a lot of people who never enjoyed being pregnant.