At what age would you be classed as an older mum?

[emilytankengine]

Thinking of adding to the brood but the idea of being classed as an "older mum" scares me! I'm 33

I had my first child when I was 37 - that's definitely an older mum!

my mother was 30 whenshe had me and was considered older
but someone told me 25+ and you are older. i was staggered... had my first at 29 and last at 34.. this is on the ward by the way!
i don't actually believe her.

is it 35 on the wards lulu? not 25 and i was told?

it depnds on who would be classing you?

33 is definately not old

I had a friend who once told me that within the medical profession you are considered a geriatric mother if you are over 26, so there's no hope for me (37 in 28 days...argh!) I wouldn't say 33 is old at all, go for it!

I'm 40 and pg with no. 4. Take comfort girls as I tell myself that 60 is the new 40!

When I was pregnant (at 21) back in 1979, anyone aged 28 or over was termed an 'elderly' mother in their medical notes! I'd had all my babies by age 27. Nowadays, it seems many don't even think about starting until 30 or even later. I think antenatal care is better now than previous decades and women are generally in better health and effectively 'younger' for longer. I certainly don't think 33 is too old. Even 43 would probably be OK if you're in good health.

I am not in the very least worried about my age! I am expecting 7th baby in february, and will be 38 in January....surely giving birth at 38 years and 1 month is ANCIENT!! Oh well they can always shove me in with the geriatrics to give birth then!!!
I had first child at 30 years and 10 months, have had one child every year since, and if I am classed as an older mother, then just too bad! Who cares, anyway, age is just something on a piece of paper, means nothing as some people are old at 20 while others are young at 60+.
Please don't beat yourself up about it.
To be quite honest all the medical do-gooders drive me nuts nowadays, considering my late mil had her 7th child at 49.5years, and yes all the children were all born healthy.
To the lady who's 44 years young, good on ye girl, enjoy the amazing experience.
Ahhhh well, even I feel a lot better now, surely I can fit in quite a few more babies to my extra-ordinary brood in the 11/12 years! I shall no doubt look good when using a pram rather than a zimmer frame though!! he he!! Just relax and enjoy your pregnancies ladies, I truly believe that we are not too old, as no matter what the doctors feel, mother nature knows a hell of a lot more than they do even!Don't worry, be happy! Take care xx

I had DD at 38 and have just had DS at 43.
You are not old.

Thanks everyone, i feel young now! Of course it doesn't matter and not everyone is lucky enough to conceive straight away so have no control over whether they're older or younger wwhen they become pregnant. I'd say most people round here seem to be 29 - 31 age group when they have their first

I see older mums as in their late 40s ( with first babies I mean)

You need to ask a doctor really. There is a proper medical definition for an "aged primigravida" (sp?). Think you may technically be one though, because I was at 31!

I've only read the OP but how very dare you?
I had my first of 4 at 32 and my most recent at 39. I was the first of my group of friends to have a baby.

Go for it I say.

I think mental age counts for much more than physical age

In Australia my lovely (not!) GP classed me as an older mum when I had my DD at 29, personally I though i was quite young!

oldie here - had ds at 44 , now 45

I was 33/nearly 34 when I had my first dd and wasn't classed as being an older mum then. I am now 37 and am classed as being an older mum and have fallen into the category of being high risk on things.

I had DS at 27 - now 30 and ttc no.2. I don't feel remotely old, perhaps because there are a lot (and I mean LOADS) of older mums in my area, at toddler groups, the park etc. It seems the norm to have your first in your late 30s in some parts of north London, so I feel like a gymslip mum at some gatherings...plus very very few of my early-30s friends have had children yet, so i'm thinking the norm for an 'older mum' is going to mean 40 plus for a first timer pretty soon...

I was 35 when I had ds, and just fitted into the older mum criteria, and 37 when I had dd.
But my grandmother was 30 when she had my mum her first and 42 when she had my younger uncle.
Actually, I found out the other day that my uncle was not a 'surprise' as I had sort of assumed as he is 10 years younger than my other uncle, but a planned baby.

I am 39 in 2 weeks time and 10 weeks pregnant (god willing) with No 2. Was 36 and 50 weeks when had DS1. Have had no conception problems or later pregnancy problems although have miscarried twice (early) in the last 6 months. will be 39 and a half when this one is born and then intend to go for No 3 although I am aware that I will be starting to push my luck a little...........

I felt like an old mum at 30 - now expecting 2nd at 32, I put it down to lack of energy and my mum was 22 when she had me and my nan was 28 when she had my mum!

I am 38 (nearly 39) and mentioned to my MW that I was "an Older mum" - she told me not to be so silly, that they see women much older than me! Made my Day!

I was referred to as an "older" mum at 29 going on 30. What really p*ssed me off was the implication that I hadn't wanted children when I was younger which couldn't have been further from the truth. We'd been actively trying since I was 25.

I'm 38 since March and 12 weeks pregnant with number3(Had 1 at 30, 2 at 32). Feeling really old(sickness, tiredness,etc doesn't help) and maybe that I've lost my mind! Have a nucal thickness scan 2morrow.PG all will be well. Anyways an older Mum is classes as 35+ but my(rather useless) midwife said she saw a lot older than me!

I'd say that here in Australia over 40 is "older" and under 30 is unusually young, considering most Australian women start their families in their 30s. Maybe it's different in Britain. I'm 41, 15 weeks pregnant with my first, and feeling fantastic. Any earlier in my life and I don't think I could have done this; I wasn't as physically or mentally fit. Being an older mother seems to be regarded as pretty cool these days --- all that maturity and sophistication wafting around you like costly perfume!