Single mom and unplanned pregnancy

[Mommabear15]

So as the title says I'm a single mom to two boys aged 3 and 4 and have been since my youngest was a few weeks old as their farther became violent when pregnant with our youngest. The boys haven't seen their dad for over a year due to a court order (he was nasty and violent in court). Since then we have been getting along so happily and calmly, I've been on dates with men but neither of my boys have known as I wouldn't want to introduce them to anyone unless I know they would be around for a long time. I've been dating a work colleague (I've known him for 2yrs previous) for 5 months, he hasn't met my children yet and I haven't me his. (all boys roughly around the same age) after one slip up a month ago I have now found out that I am pregnant. I really don't know what to do, it's way too early in our relationship to be thinking about raising a baby, it's been difficult on me already trying to raise my two babies to toddlers on my own whilst still working and paying high nursery fees. My partner wants to abort the pregnancy and I agree but deep down there is a willingness to keep the pregnancy but I'm terrified how this will impact my children and our family dynamic 😔

That's tough.
What would you do do you think if the pregnancy was a result of a one night stand? Or if your partner wouldn't be around?

I think I'd still have trouble, at the moment I'm thinking of things as a single mum cause that's what I'm used to. Even if my partner did stick around we would still struggle financially let alone struggle to have time for our children and then each other. In the long run I would love a 3rd child but I know how hard it's been supporting two children through nursery on my wage. It's only gotten slightly easier this year as we had 15hrs and 30hrs free childcare kick in for my sons but it's still £700 per month.

Well if I was you I couldn't go through with it. And that is simply because I wouldn't want to allow another man into my (or my kids) peaceful existence so readily. And when you have a baby with him you have to run the relationship at accelerated speed. You'd be kind of stuck with him and you haven't even met his kids. And he wants you to abort. I don't so much like the sound of that. I'd be having second thoughts about him tbh.
But be kind to yourself, you have to do what's right for you.