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So Frustrated

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didihearthatright123456 · 15/01/2019 14:52

I just need to rant about my latest appointment with my consultant.

I'm 22+5 weeks pregnant with twins. I had my appointment today. As is usual I walk into the waiting room and it's fit to bursting. I had my blood pressure etc done fairly quickly (within half an hour) and then waited another hour to see the consultant.

At the last second I was told that I was seeing someone different (my usual consultant was there as I saw her). It was awful she was so dismissive of me. I must have been in there all of 5 minutes. She looked at my notes and then basically just began writing out my next appointment for 5 weeks time - during this time she kept getting my dates wrong and couldn't get her head around how I was having my 24 week scan next week (if I'm 22+5 now, then Thursday this week I'll be 23 weeks and then next Thursday I'll be 24 weeks - hardly rocket science is it). She said sorry and that maths wasn't her strong subject Hmm

This is a very hard fought for pregnancy after 5 rounds of IVF so yes I am a little anxious. She didn't ask me at all how I was getting on, whether I had any concerns or anything else.

I had decided to ask if it was possible at my next scan to have a internal scan to make sure my cervix is nice and strong and was showing no signs of premature labour. There's no reason to suspect this but like I say I am anxious and if the cervix was showing signs of weakness we could discuss potentially putting a stitch in.

She just looked at me like I had 2 heads and said no we don't do that. She said with twins premature labour was more likely anyway so there was no point.

I suppose I was just after some reassurance and to talk through my concerns, but that was never offered. She just gave me my notes back with the next appointment cards.

I could have just sobbed when I came out. I'm not sure whether I'm getting a fresh batch of hormones today and am blowing this all out of proportion.

My usual consultant normally asks how I'm feeling, have I felt any movement yet. We discuss potential birth decisions etc and she goes through the growth scan results with me. Even discussing all of this I'm not usually in the room with her for more than 10 minutes or so.

sigh......... maybe it's just the surging hormones.

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Cariadxx · 15/01/2019 17:24

I think maybe you are being a little over sensitive but 5 minutes is quite quick however you're not even 24 weeks yet so discussing birth plans now even with twins is early.
Regarding the internal scan, these are not done after about 8 weeks due to the risk of miscarriage or preterm labour so she was probably totally surprised you even asked, and it wouldn't show whether the cervix was ok or not in the way you were asking for it to be.
It can be really difficult for a doctor to see someone new especially if the clinic is over running and with so much to think about getting dates right is a minor thing.

Endofrelationship · 15/01/2019 22:54

Sounds like a registrar I had. Dismissive, rude, uninformed and no bedside manner, really upset me and caused me some significant distress (I had PTSD following my first labour, which she also dismissed).

Sorry you experienced that. Refuse to see her again, though it may mean a longer wait.

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