How do these women do it!

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Hi all, so reading through a magazine and see all these celebrities who have recently had babies (one of which literally looks a month old) and they are complete back in shape! I don't think they ever got out of shape!!! They are completely toned and have tight stomachs and not a teeny bit of fat in sight!!! I know these are mags and could be air brushed a bit but even so the look incredible and massive respect to them.....also my sister in law recently had a baby and she had zero weight gain, she didn't even look like she'd had a baby after giving both literally no give away signs so much so you'd question if she did actually have one. Now I'm on my second pregnancy 3 and a half months in and look terrible, I'm gaining weight at the speed of light, my first I gained a load of weight and took me about a year to shift some of it (not all of it!) this time I'm trying so hard to be more active and eat sensibly, but you see these women and I can't help but feel very crap about myself and just rubbish, they all seem to have it together and just be 'perfect' including my sister in law who isn't a celebrity and her friends all seem to be similar, how come I'm so crap at it all, i had the weight gain, the confidence bash after my first, the going back to work thing was just one massive headache and even now I'm basically invisible, I don't know, I'm not feeling sorry for myself but sometimes I just think what the hell! What am I doing so wrong, give me a break god 🤣🙈 sorry guys this has turned into a bit of a rant, we'll blame the hormones 🤦🏻‍♀️

Air Brushed A Lot.

C-Section + tummy tuck.

You have to remember their entire life is built around how they look, their career, their money, their whole way of life. They don’t have a 9-5 office job while juggling the school run and a partner working full time coming home to cook dinner and clean the house. Their looks are everything so I’m sure that’s a pretty big motivation in pregnancy and post to reach for a carrot stick instead of the pringles.

And what previous posters said 😂

I honestly don't know any women IRL who haven't lost their baby weight, myself included.

Your sister in law probably thought she looked crap too. Give yourself a break and stop comparing if you can. Everyone struggles with going back to work etc. and thinks everyone else has it sorted.

How is it possible to not know anyone who is a bit bigger after having children?

Blackboot- my sister in law 🙈 she literally doesn't look as if she's had a baby she's gone straight back flat no excess weight anywhere, it's insane. Also she has no troubles with Brest feeding literally there's nothing that's gone wrong for her apart from the tiny odd thing, which is great don't get me wrong! It's lovely but when I was having mini meltdowns with my first just makes me feel a little rubbish 🤣

Thanks everyone, just makes you feel a little shit about yourself when you are trying to be healthier generally without causing any harm to yourself or baby but like you say I guess they have so much extra help with school runs, nursery runs, work runs, trips to the drs work commitments, unlike us who have to do everything one handed. Cheers everyone 👍🏻

Because they have personal trainers, can afford people to cook healthy meals for them, have help with the baby so they are actually getting sleep, and prob aren’t trying to manage their own housework. As a pp said, their career is built around their image, so they probably feel a lot of pressure to get back to a pre baby body ASAP (which is awful imo)

And airbrushing. Do not underestimate what airbrushing can do.

Private nannies, night nurses and personal trainers.

I went back to my pre-pregnancy shape almost immediately.

Unfortunately that shape is a blob...

Give yourself a break OP. We are not all created equal, some will lose weight immediately and others take some time. Fresh air, lots and lots of walking, water (helps flush out the post pregnancy fluid) and a positive mental attitude.

I sailed through my pregnancy wearing standard clothes - opening a button here and there - all smug and thinking I was literally 'it'! Then I hit 7.5 months and it was like someone had shoved an air bed pump up rear end and inflated me. Worse still I gained more weight and fluid immediately after my DS was born. I lay about for a few weeks feeling sorry for myself then I gave myself a good talking to, for over myself, bought bigger trousers and started walking. I kept the same pair of trousers for ages!! They were my go to walking attire. I wanted to feel them getting baggier and baggier and they did. I purposefully missed some shopping off my grocery list in the am with the view to walking again in the pm (pram and DS included) to get it. You save on petrol too! When the trousers are baggy enough - start some toning exercises. You'll be in great shape in no time!

For the record I desperately wanted to breastfeed - but just couldn't. Tried and failed. Hey ho. My son is 16 now, well adjusted, healthy, very very sporty and none the worse for getting formula over breast all those years ago.

Think about yourself OP and stop comparing yourself. How much healthier, and happier can YOU be and just start.

Good luck!

C-Section + tummy tuck

what rubbish.

If your entire existence revolves around the way you look and you have the time and cash to look good then it's possible. No doubt they have plenty of childcare so sleepless nights aren't an issue, plenty of time to plan healthy meals, someone to cook for them, a personal trainer, loads of time for the gym... The rest of us don't!

And remember - you never really know what is going on behind the scenes anyway. A picture perfect life often hides many issues.

The celeb pictures don't make sense to me either, all of those pics in bikinis with perfect flat stomachs. However have you actually seen your SiIs stomach? I didn't put on any excess weight during pregnancy, have gone back to pre pregnancy weight so have been very fortunate there and I probably look like I'm just the same in clothes but I have just an incredible amount of stretch marks, a fair bit of very crepey excess skin and quite a visible c section scar. Wish I knew how all of those celebs managed to avoid that!!!

It's partly luck (and youth), I had my DD two months ago and for the most part I don't look like I've had a baby, though my boobs are much bigger though and my tummy isn't very toned. I bet if I had the inclination and PT I could have snapped back more by now. My pre pregnancy jeans don't fit yet but they are very skinny skinny jeans and I need a size or two up atm.

No idea how I'd lighten and shrink my skin though, it looks like I've been sun bathing with just my midsection exposed