Hand holding needed. First pregnancy after loss. 7 weeks.

[Snowflake9]

Hello all,

I was thrilled when my period was a week late and I did a test and saw those two pink lines. Then the anxiety and stress set in and has been growing since.

I had a silent miscarriage last year, I was 12+1 and started a bit of bleeding and had UTI symptoms. It was on may bank holiday weekend so rang 111. They got me an appointment with out of hours gp who dipped my urine and gave me antibiotics. The pains were getting worse with more bleeding two days later so called 111 again and they sent me Tina different doctor who sent me to a hospital to be scanned.

That was probably the worst day of my life. They did an over the belly scan and couldn't see a 12 week foetus, so she did a TV and said that I was measuring at 7 weeks. We're my dates correct ? She couldn't detect a heartbeat. I knew my dates were correct. They asked me to come back a week later where they confirmed it was a miscarriage. I chose to have a D&C under general and had to wait a further 8 days for this. My world shattered around me.

In December I took a test and got a BFP. At 5/6 weeks I had some spotting so went to gp and saw a nurse. She said it can be completely normal but if it becomes like a period or with severe pain to get in touch. She also asked EPU to scan me early.

EPU called and said they will call on the morning after 8 weeks to tell me when to come in for a scan.

I am petrified. I have way more symptoms this time around as have awful nausea all day. The spotting teetered off after 7 days and never turned red.

I guess what i'm asking is for a little reassurance over the next week. Or at least how to cope as going back to the EPU is going to bring back such horrible memories.

Thank you for taking the time to read. X

Hi,

I had bleeding Christmas Eve which had small clots in. I also had bleeding on Tuesday this week so went to my EPU were I had a TV (I'm 9w) and baby was fine.

They had a little root around to try to find the cause of the bleeding but couldn't see anything and just advises that bleeding isn't unusual but should always be checked.

Good luck!

Xx

Thanks for replying back. It's so nerve wracking! Glad your scan all went ok. Xx

My story is similar to yours - almost down to the dates. I had had some previous scans where I measured two weeks behind and I was assured I'd be fine. At 12+1 (14+1 according to my scan dates previously) I began to bleed, my baby had died at 8+4 and I had an ERPC two days later when I should have been having my 12 week scan.

I got my bfp in November, and I must admit it's not been easy. I had some bleeding early on and saw an empty sac, after two weeks of googling blighted ovums I went back and saw a 7 week old foetus with its heart beating. I bled at 8 weeks but was too scared to get seen and told my baby was dead just before Christmas, so I waited it out, I had my 11 week scan on new year's Eve and we saw our perfect wriggly baby measuring 1 day ahead, I have my nuchal testing on Wednesday and I'm still convinced I'll go back and see no heartbeat. If we do see a heartbeat I know my heart will be in my throat until the next scan.

I guess what I'm saying is you just have to get through each day however you can, remember that feelings aren't reality - I've woken up so many mornings convinced that this is the day it's all going to be over. I still don't know if I will get my healthy little baby at the end of all this, but things are more positive than last time and everything is looking positive. Don't Google, it's a scary old world out there. Just keep moving forward. Good luck X

OP - I had a similar story too, but I now have two gorgeous DCs, so hang in there.

I hope all works out for you

Thank you for sharing your story and for your honesty. When is your next scan due?

I haven't been sleeping much recently although I am so tired. The worry is eating me up . :( Xx

Similar to you OP. We had a MMC in June at almost 11 weeks (baby measured 9+3) we were absolutely devastated, I too decided to have the D&C procedure under GA. This followed another MC in December 2015.

Fast forward to now and I’m 20 weeks pregnant tomorrow and having my 20 week scan tomorrow too.

It’s been tough though, the anxiety alone has been quite difficult to cope with. I got to 12 weeks without an early scan and was so happy until I started to bleed the next day along with period cramps and backache. It was like some cruel joke. I went for my scheduled 12 week scan absolutely convinced that I’d be setting the ball rolling for another D&C but there was our baby, wriggling, flipping and jumping. Prior to this I fell pregnant in 2012, I had a bleed at around 6/7 weeks, had an early scan at 7+4 and all was fine! She’s sound asleep upstairs now!

Thank you for replying :) and for sharing your story.

I think there is so much misconception about what a normal pregnancy is, and we are all expected to just get on with it. I often wonder what it was like before the use of internet and technology , how women coped. These forums give me such relief and insight and I can find just about any answer I am looking for!

Have had hurrendous nausea which lasts all day and night, no relief from that at all so hoping that's a good sign too.

X

I had a mmc in May. I am worrying too. When you find the magic secret to not worrying you need to start selling it ;)

I did find a miscarriage calculator which puts this bean at a 91% chance of continuing which helps a little.

I’m also worried as not getting that nauseous as understand it is a good sign but I didn’t get very nauseous with my first either so hopefully it’s just the same

Nausea is different for different people. My sister was sick with both of hers until she gave birth. My other sister, only one in three of her pregnancies she suffered with morning sickness.

I am just playing it out in my head. Just going to go in, have a TV ultrasound and midwife will say all good. Measuring correct and there is the heartbeat.

Before, I never looked at the screen. I didn't want to see as I knew it was all over. So this time I hope to be able to see s screen in the ultra sound room.