Insensitive partner

[ShanAmanda]

Anyone really struggling to love the changes their body is currently going through? I hate how much bigger everything is looking and I'm really struggling with my body image. Anyway; my partner knows all this and how much it's affecting my confidence, yet he just turned round and said something incredibly insensitive which really upset me. Why do pregnancy hormones have to make us so sensitive?😢😢

I think maybe it’s not so much the hormones making us sensitive I think it’s these men that are insensitive is it really too much to ask to be nice to someone while they carry ur child? I’m single but the baby’s dad managed to call me the gruffalo, the penguin(batman) and really fat all within a 5minute conversation. Astounding how lovely some dingbats can be! I don’t have to even look at you to know you are beautiful and carrying the most precious cargo - enjoy ur pregnancy! You are amazing!!x

What did he say?

I don't think men realise how much our body goes through and therefore how much we go through. You will be more sensitive because of hormones but you'll also be feeling a bit unsure about things because of how much your body's changing, especially if this is your first pregnancy. Let him know how you feel so he knows in the future.

When my stretch marks first showed up my DH said "but they will go away again, won't they?". It felt insensitive to me at the time, but i soon realised that he genuinely did not know anything about what my body was going through, or what to expect, and his comment came from a place of enquiry rather than judgement/hope.