15 weeks and not feeling pregnant. Any tips?

[RMarieClaire]

Ooph. I'm 15+3 now. My nausea and fatigue are so much better. And although I've put on weight, it looks like it could just be in a post-Christmas indulgence way.

I don't feel pregnant at all any more - to the point where I feel awkward telling people, in case it turns out to be a mistake.

I'm tempted to get a private scan, before my 20 week scan, but I don't want to indulge my anxiety (and it's quite expensive).

Any tips on how to stay sane in this in between phase?

I felt like this all the way through mine ( it was an easy pregnancy). I think it's just how some people are. In a few weeks you might start feeling movements which will keep reminding you you're pregnant.

I handled it (or rather didn't) by just ignoring the fact I was pregnant. I didn't lie if people asked me, but honestly I just carried on with normal life. Admittedly that's probably not helpful.

I worried it meant I wouldn't bond with baby, or baby didn't exist, or all number of things. But we're both doing just fine, if that helps.

I think between 15-20ish weeks was the least pregnant I've felt! It's that weird limbo where first trimester symptoms have often eased up but it's too early to feel baby move mostly, so you just kind of feel normal again. It is an odd feeling but quite normal, I think.

I'm now 36 weeks and boy do I feel it!

Have you got a midwife appt booked? I felt a bit in limbo between the 12 week scan and my 20 week scan (actually still do, it's next week!) but my last midwife appt - 16 weeks - helped massively as she used a Doppler and I heard the heartbeat for the first time.

Hang in there until then!

I agree with @kingofthemountains, it's a long time to go between 12 and 20 week scan without any 'proof' when you're not looking or feeling especially pregnant. So I was delighted when my midwife offered the Doppler at 16 week appointment (not every trust does it as standard so you may have to ask). If you haven't already you'll soon start feeling little movements too though this is different for everyone, I didn't think mine could be as seemed a bit early for first baby but midwife said what I was describing sounded likely.

I'm 12+3 and I feel the same. Iv had no symptoms and gained no weight I feel like I'm making it up 😂

Thanks all. I have my 16 week appointment on Friday so FX she can do heartbeat test then - I'll certainly ask. If not I think we'll get a private scan. Not really something I can afford at the moment, but this is really stressing me out. And finding out the gender early would be amazing too :)

This said my friends have said over the last few days that I have a cute bump. I can't help thinking it's just bloating from eating so much more than usual! It feels very early to be showing, surely?

There's no 20 week scan here. It's a looong time. I think everyone has this not feeling pregnant bit in the middle. It'll soon be over though when you start feeling movement. I hope it all goes well for you.

Once you're 25, 28, 30 weeks +, you'll look back on the post-nausea, pre beached-whale thing with longing.

Hey @RMarieClaire - I’m in the same boat as you (couple of days from being 16 weeks) and I’m having a private scan Saturday morning. This will be my 4th scan - I’ve got no shame in how paranoid I am! I also don’t have my ‘16 week’ until I’m 18 weeks due to a mix up with the booking. Annoying.
I’m fairly symptomless too - just random feelings of jet lag type waves but nothing else.

I wouldn't say it's too early for a bump! I'm 17+4 now (ahhhhhh where does the time keep going?!) and have a definite bump: about two weeks ago I had a bump in certain clothes and at certain times of day.

I must admit I've had no problem with feeling sufficiently pregnant as dizziness and breathlessness has been in full force over the past few weeks. And now my ankles are starting to swell. Such a time of elegance and dignity!

I'm 17+3 and felt exactly like you until last week. Then I had my midwife appointment, she listened to the heartbeat and it was all fine!

Might not be your type of thing, but I'm in a facebook group of women due around the same time as me, and it can be really reassuring to see lots of people saying similar things (even if you don't actually post anything, just reading through it can be reassuring for me).