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Bleeding during early pregnancy

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Atkinsahye · 12/01/2019 11:10

Hi, I’m just here looking for advise on coping with my situation not asking for opinions if I have miscrried.

I am about 5 weeks pregnant and I was taken into hospital with bleeding and light cramping. I was seen by a trainee doctor who did a urine test and my blood pressure and she confirmed I was miscarrying. My and my partner were distraught. She came back 5 minutes later after she was called away by the consultant training her to apologise and advise it may be a threatened pregnancy and advised to test in a few days to confirm if I have carried through or miscarried. The worry for the next few days until I test seems unbareable. I’m also worried if I test and get a positive result, I’m going to be over the moon and then have the heartbreak of it being wrong due to hcg hormone still being in my blood. She didn’t take any blood tests to monitor my hormones and I am worrying myself sick. Is there any advise on how to cope with this going forward. Thank you xxx

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Summer135 · 13/01/2019 08:18

Such a stressful time you are going through. Did you go to A&E or Early Pregnancy Unit?
They should really get you in for an early scan so they can see either way. If you're not bleeding heavily you could be spotting which is completely normal. I have been through what you're going through three times and it's heartbreaking. It's so hard and people will keep saying it but try and stay positive and try and relax. Sending hugs!!

Jackshouse · 13/01/2019 09:04

5 weeks is too early to scan and 6 weeks may also not be able to tell you.

Try to get through each hour and each day. Watch crap TV. It is an awful limbo land to be in.

Have the said what you should do next?

Snowflake9 · 13/01/2019 09:36

I had a week of limbo before, and the minutes seem like hours and the hours seem like days.
I am sorry you are going through this, one thing I did was sleep. ALOT. And try and be around supportive people who can keep you occupied.

Why not try baking, or simply putting the hoover round.

Thoughts are with you, (had a lot of spotting at 5 weeks my self on this pregnancy) doctors didn't seem to concerned unless it turned like a period or worse. It lasted 9 days and teetered off.

Thinking of you x

Foodie68 · 13/01/2019 09:50

I understand the worry as I bled for the first 6 weeks on and off. If you go to your go they should be able to take a blood sample twice over a 5 day period and check your hcg levels are rising in the expected way. I’m now 10 weeks and the bleeding has stopped but I’m still slightly anxious. Hope all is well

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Atkinsahye · 15/01/2019 11:18

Hi everyone.

Sorry for taking a while to respond I have just been taking some time to myself to relax and (try) to not stress.

I was taken into A&E after multiple calls to 111 throughout the day. I unfortunately did pass quite a large clot but since everything seems back to normal. I have asked for blood tests to monitor my hcg but was told I may as well just wait to retest in a week or so and see if I get a positive result. My mind is set on this being a miscarriage but for some reason my body can’t seem to shake the feeling that everything is fine, my gut is fighting with my head and I have such a strong feeling that all is ok but I don’t want to let that get my hopes up. It seems to just be a waiting game for me now. Thank you all for your lovely messages xxx

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TwittleBee · 15/01/2019 11:53

It is such a shit position to be in Sad I am sorry you are going through this.

I had 2 CPs and 1 MMC last year so know what it is like to be in that limbo.

There is a 50:50 chance either way according to the info at my local EPU. The sonographer there said the same too, she said that half the women come in with bleeds and it will just be from the cervix, or just a bit of a bleed near the baby and everything will be fine. But the other half, it will be bad news.

sollyfromsurrey · 15/01/2019 11:55

I bled early on in all 3 pregnancies. Each time I was exactly like you. Feeling scared and worried but also feeling like it's not all over yet. I think it is just something some women go through. It hopefully will be all fine. Xx

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Atkinsahye · 15/01/2019 12:17

Thank you both. I’ve orepared myself for the worst case, I’m only 21 so I have a lot of time ahead of me to try again if it is. I’ve always trusted a strong gut feeling but I don’t want to get my hopes high and be let down so I’m ignoring it for now. I’m just worried about when to re-test as I know the hcg hormone can stay in your body for a while so I don’t want to test too early but it’s also an agonising wait! Xx

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TwittleBee · 15/01/2019 12:21

It really can stay in your body for ages Sad so sorry they wont monitor your bloods for you. Test in a week and if it looks positive still then urge for an early scan to see if everything is okay

AlwaysaLittleBitTired · 15/01/2019 12:25

Just a handhold here. I had a very similar experience at 5 weeks with dc1. I wasn't scanned, but was told by an out of hours doctor that it was likely to be a mc and to put my feet up and wait. It was a terribly sad and frightening few days until the bleeding and pain stopped. My pg continued well after that, and I since learned that my mum had the same experience when pg with my brother.
Only time will tell, but I wish you all the best. xx

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Atkinsahye · 15/01/2019 12:26

It seems a little silly to me that they won’t monitor my bloods, my doctors has always been very very busy so I guess it’s more convenient for them to tell me to wait and test than it is to have me in a couple of times to monitor my bloods. I think I shall test the end of this week, it would have been a week since I started bleeding and if I get a positive result I will try and get into a EPU for a scan, just going to try and rest as much as possible until then. Thank you for your support with this, it’s lovely to speak to someone understanding about this x

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TwittleBee · 15/01/2019 12:29

Can you urge your Drs to refer you to an EPU now? Just wondering, as with my last pregnancy I managed to get referred for a scan at 5+3 to ensure everything was okay. I know its different for each area but maybe if you keep pushing your Drs they might refer you?

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Atkinsahye · 15/01/2019 12:34

It might be worth a call to try, there’s never any harm in trying. Even just a blood test would give me a bit more insight into what’s happening. My doctor first told me it could just be a ‘hormone period’ as I’ve always suffered with ridiculously heavy periods my body may be confused around the time of my periods but since passing a clot I’m not sure this is the case. I haven’t even had my cervix checked to see if it is closed. Feel a bit fobbed off, I wish they understood how agonising it is x

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Atkinsahye · 15/01/2019 12:37

Thank you AlwaysaLittleBitTired. It’s lovely to hear a positive outcome. Did you have any gut feelings about what was going on with your body? Any positive or negative feelings? I’m hoping all is well but prepared it isnt. Stress isn’t going to change anything or make anything better so I’m avoiding it as much as possible xx

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