LO is 6 months and I'm pregnant 🙈

[FE1984]

My beautiful LO is only six months old and we've just found out I'm pregnant again. Which is ironic considering we were taking precaution and only had sex once last month.

If this pregnancy goes smoothly we'll have two under two. Anyone have any experience in this? I feel like we may as well have had twins!

I also feel guilty for my LO as I wanted to give her more time just us before trying for a second. I am so in love with her and she is my whole world. I wanted to do more things with her before she had to share us.

I am 34 so am aware that this is a blessing being considered an older mum. Our first was difficult to conceive so I thought we were lucky with even just the one. We were thinking of trying again when our LO turns one, but this is crazy!

I had two close together 20 months between them.
The first six months was a blur tbh but then one day the baby sat in the high chair at the table in front of the toddler and they just chuckled at each other whilst moisturising in their dinner and at that moment I thought this is great.
They were fab company for each other as they grew up. Teens not so much but as adults they care for each other and like each other's company getting together every now and then.

I am in the same boat! My lo was only 4.5 months when I found out I was pregnant again! It took a few months to get my head around it and used to the idea! I am not as scared as I was, but still a little anxious at how I will cope and still sometimes feel the guilt you are talking about. I know exactly how you feel, but you are giving your lo the gift of a sibling and there will be more than enough love to share around.
My baby is due in about 10 weeks, 10 days after my sons 1st birthday! I am also 34. We wanted kids close together but didnt expect it to happen so soon, but now I am actually glad that its a short gap and starting to get excited! Of course it will be mental but Im sure it is no matter what the gap! I only returned to work this week and back for 8 weeks. I found this pregnancy actually easier because I had most of it off work and could rest when my son was sleeping. Also they are still babies and you dont have to literally run around after a toddler, so there are positives.

My husband and his brother are 18 months apart and they have a really lovely close relationship. So it’s not all bad 😁

Congratulations! Mine are 2.5 Years apart. Now 11 and 14. It was quite intense when they were little, but also fun and sometimes very funny.
Tween years they were very close.
Now with a teen and nearly teen there’s more of a gap but in school holidays they like spending time together
I just tried to encourage them to be interested in one another and kind to each other.
I hope they have a good relationship as adults. Time will tell.

@blondeirishmummy84 heck! Congratulations! How have you found being pregnant with a LO? I hadn't even thought about the work thing 😫. I've just started a new job which gave me everything I wanted to start. I think I'll be going back to work if only for a break in the week so hopefully they'll keep me on!

How has your LO been? How have you been feeling?!

@cushioncuddle @moreismore @Epiphany52 well that sounds lovely in the long term then! I have five years between me and my sister and we've found that gap a bit too big most of the time, so closeness would be nice.

Congratulations. Dc1 was 3months when I found out I was pregnant with dc2, 12months exactly between them. Dc2 was 20 months when dc3 was born. We had planned on no more, but due to a vasectomy failure dc4 is due soon. Will have 4 under 5!😂. Honestly it is great with a close age gap, but hard work, they are all very close and play together well. I am also considered an older mum at 37, so fertility wise, very fortunate.

@FE1984 thanks you and congratulations to you too!
Admittedly the first trimester was difficult as you need all your energy for your lo but I just slept/rested when my son was having his naps and went to bed soon after he did. The tiredness was tough but no matter what your first trimester is hard, whether you have a baby or not, or working or not. My husband was good and helped out more with housework and making dinner. He is a great hands on Dad and does almost every bathtime! We have it quite hard as both our families live over an hour away so there isnt much help in that respect but we muddle through.
The rest of my pregnancy so far has actually been really good, I have been more active which has helped, whereas if I was in work I sit at a desk most of the day. You're so occupied with a baby at home you dont focus on the pregnancy so much, which isnt necessarily a bad thing! With my first pregnancy I was obsessed and anxious but now I just get on with it! Thankfully Ive had a healthy pregnancy so far.
Now I am back at work this week and entering my third trimester, I am starting to find it a bit more tough again with getting bigger and sciatica is bothering me. Being at work is a different sort of tiredness and its been hard as I miss my son. On the flipside I get a physical break as not bending and lifting him as much.
My LO is a dream, he is such a good little boy (can have his moments though!)and he sleeps fairly well, most of the time (currently coming out of the 8-10 month regression so some nights were hairy with a few wakings!). He isnt crawling yet but Im not too bothered just yet about it! I do worry about splitting my time between a newborn and him, but my son is definitely more independent now and my hubby is amazing with him which helps. Ive learned not to worry so much as it will all be fine, lots of women do it!

I was sh*t scared of telling work and still feel paranoid that my boss hates me ha ha, but legally there is nothing they can do, same with your work place. Its time to have and raise your babies, just focus on that.

My DD is 6 mo too, and I'm 12wks pregnant. I'm finding being pregnant with a baby so much easier than being pregnant with a toddler (I have 2 older kids 1 and a half years apart). Babies don't move so don't have to run around after her while I'm going through the nausious stage, plus she still sleeps lots through the day and sleeps all night.

My fingers are crossed for another girl as there will only be 13 months between them.

There is only a 10 month gap between me and my big brother, altho we fought like cat and dog, we were also very close and shared the same friends group growing up. Much bigger age gap(4 years) between me and my little brother, we never really had a close relationship.

Congrats Happened to me. The first couple of years were very hard but it was so worth it. They are now nine and ten and are so close. They have always got on really well. I love our family and couldn't imagine it any other way.

My two were 18 months apart.

I loved every single moment of it.

Second one was in a routine much quicker than first as when I put eldest one down for a nap/sleep I did so with second one too. Youngest may have woken up more times but every single day I had both children asleep at the same time so was able to rest/do what needed doing.

They grew up together. They were very close, always had each other to play with. Shared friends, activities were easier as they got older as they could both participate (when age appropriate).

I often wish I was back there when they were both tiny.

My DD is 8 months & I'm 9 weeks pregnant. I hope they grow up and be close xx

My DD1 is 12 months old and I'm 31 weeks pregnant. 🙈

I'm hoping it gets a little easier once DD2 arrives, as I've found being heavily pregnant with a crawling baby physically hard!

I have a 16 month gap between my first two. It was a bit of a shock & the first year was a bit of a blur, but it was worth it & they are still close friends as young adults.

It can't have been too bad as I had their brother a couple of years later

I'm in the same boat, I got pregnant when DS was 8 months, we didn't take precautions as DS took 9 years, 5 IVF cycles and 3 egg donors so didn't for one minute think it would happen, we are obviously very happy and were planning another cycle this summer but not quite as quick as this! The pregnancy has been harder with regards to being knackered more but hoping they will grow up to be good friends, both boys!

Just under 14 months between my first two. I did feel a bit cheated in a way because I wanted more time with DS on his own, but I fell in love with DD the moment I saw her.
Because he was so small DS accepted her very easily and I don't think he could remember a time when she wasn't there. We had far fewer problems with jealousy than most of our friends who had a two year gap.

I got pregnant with DC3 when DS was 8m, however in our case DC3 has turned out to be DC 3&4! I'm now 35w and DS is 16m so we are going to have 3 under 2 plus a 4yo in a matter of weeks! Im hoping that once we've got through the first year or so they will all play together as they will be so close in age!

I have a 13 month gap between my two boys. It's been brilliant. Now 8 and 9 they are very close, are into all the same things, share toys, passions and friends and have never known a life without each other. Congrats x

These stories are definitely giving me more confidence in thinking we can do this, thank you!

@MrsY87 twins?! Wow! Congratulations to you! Sounds like it will be crazy but amazing!