When did you tell people?

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When did you tell people that you were pregnant?

I have my 12 week scan next week and am wondering if I should wait until I have the screening results back, or just start telling people if everything looks ok at the scan. I am worried about -everything- finding out something's wrong, even though I don't have any particular risk factors for abnormalities But the leaflet says it can take two weeks to get the results, and I'd quite like to give my friends and co-workers a reason for my erratic behaviour sooner than that... Do people normally wait just until the scan, or a bit longer?

We did tell our respective parents and some of our closes friends already, as we figured we'd want their support if it went wrong.

Awww tried to the cool strikethrough thingie and failed. I hope I'm better at parenting than using the internet.

4 weeks with both, hyperemesis is an asshole!

Congratulations!!
We told our parents after the scan, and everyone else slowly that we wanted to in the following fortnight really. With the combined screening they said it’s either a phone call the next day if high risk or 2 weeks max for a letter confirming low risk. Literally had a letter 2 days later confirming low risk though so hopefully it won’t be long until you find out if you do want to wait! Xx

First time we told people after the scan but were then recalled to see the consultant. Everything turned out fine, but I really wished I'd waited.

This time we waited until after screening results.

I did tell a couple of very close friends before that though but I also told them when I miscarried. I didn't tell my family when I miscarried.

I told some people early on and some after we had the scan. I think its really down to you what you have to think is how easy would it be for me to have to tell this person if there is sknething wrong. Its different for everyone but I had very bad sickness so felt the need to tell some people earlier and also I didn’t like having this massive secret and not being able to talk to anyone about it!

I told my family and a few close friends before the scan and then after the scan when everything looked OK I told all my friends, work etc. I thought about waiting for results but then thought maybe I should wait til 20 weeks for abnormality scan then thought I was being daft as I think you could have issues at any point of your pregnancy - I’m a worrier too! I think do what feels right for you.

We told parents and siblings between 4-6 weeks- they all have normal boundaries though and we knew they’d keep it to themselves.

I told HR at work the day I after I found out with Dc2 as I was still off on maternity with Dc1 and I wanted to give them as much notice as possible.

Various close friends after an early scan at 7 weeks, then everyone else after the booking appointment scan.