I’m pregnant and going to be a single mum. Help :(

[Louisegeorge]

Are there any single mums out there that can chat and reassure me. I’m feeling very anxious about doing this alone :(

Your going to be fine - congratulations and enjoy every minute, you have such a gift, fully indulge and do everything you can to enjoy your pregnancy, I have 3 soon to be 4 and I am single and tbh I find it easier than when I’m with the father. X

Thank you. I’m scared and can’t stop crying. I have no financial support from the father and I want this baby so badly but I’m feeling really depressed

You can do this! I've been a lone parent since my DD was born. We've coped fine and you'll be a stronger and more independent person for it

You've got this :) If you have family speak to them about how you feel. There are many people in a similar situation so try to join a local group or speak to other people you know. X

I’ve been a lone parent since my DD was five months old, you can totally do this! In some ways it’s a lot easier doing it on your own, and you and your little one will be such a close knit team. Do you have any other support?

Thank you. Your words mean a lot right now x

Thank you all of you. My sister is being supportive and we are going to find a flat together hopefully. Can any of you speak to me on the phone at some point?

You will be fine. I've been doing it since my little girl was 9 months old and have no family near by. I actually feel better doing it alone.

I've been a lone parent since my little one was 6 months. It was easier after abusive partner left - could do things my way at ease and knew myself and my little one were safe. It's exhausting but manageable. I have no financial support from ex either - it can be tough but plan finances smartly and you will manage. Also it's taken me three years to accept lone parenthood and just enjoy the lovely moments and special relationship. Try not to worry too much - it will work out in the end! Enjoy the little moments along the way.

I used to be a single mum now with partner of eight years and expecting a boy and I can 💯 agree it's easier on your own . Sorry but I said it lol. Not every part of it but just overall average . Xoxo

Louise I’m sorry that your ex did this - he sounds charming!

My ex did the same, left me when I was pregnant and I was scared and anxious at first but I still wanted the baby so I focused on preparing for the arrival of the baby (nursery, cot, clothes and read about a million books). As a first time mum I used mumsnet to learn about anything and everything.

Now that my DD is here I couldn’t be happier and whilst I have a lovely boyfriend he isn’t with us 100% of the time as he works away a fair bit. Being a single parent isn’t easy I won’t lie it’s hard work but it’s so rewarding and every day I thank my lucky stars that I was blessed to have my baby. I am also thankful my ex left me, it would be a joyless situation with him around and it’s axtually easier. I don’t have to consult anyone on how I parent my daughter and I no longer have the anxiety he used to cause me to feel.

With respect to maintenance I’ve had to fight my ex for it (even though he’s a relatively well paid lawyer!). Involve the CMS as soon as your baby is born to get the ball rollint, register the birth as as soon as you can and this will speed up the CMS. If your ex works he will have to pay even if he moves as far as the US!

We are here to support you

Thank you for the reply. My ex is a lawyer too and he is adamant that he’s not going to pay anything because he didn’t want the baby.
I’m so overwhelmed about what lies ahead. Is there any chance I can speak to you on the phone for advice?
Louise