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how long does it take to get pregnant after a miscarriage? Your experiences please :)

18 replies

Rebeccamt · 09/01/2019 13:19

Hey everyone,

I miscarried back in June, at 6 weeks. We had started trying in February. We starting trying again right away, but still nothing. I am starting to feel like there is something wrong with me. Sad

I am so desperate for my rainbow. Been using CB ovulation tests too.

I feel calm, chilled about it all just sad that it's not happening.

Any hints, tips, advice... stories. I feel really alone right now.

X

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Hellothere0 · 09/01/2019 14:16

Hi, just wanted to say, please don’t feel alone. So many of us have been or are where you are right now. I’m afraid there’s no specific timeline when it comes to these things, it is pure chance/luck. I have had an ectopic (haemorrhaged and lost a tube) and two miscarriages and have still fortunately been lucky and now have two children. The timings were different with each one.
I fell pregnant 15 months after my ectopic and had a full term baby. Following year had a miscarriage and took 16 months to fall pregnant again but that ended in miscarriage as well but then literally one month later I fell pregnant again and had another full term baby. Just hang on in there and if you’re worried go and see your dr and talk it through with them. Depending on your circumstances, age, how long you’ve been trying etc they may be able to help or to refer you for some tests. Although you may just find that there is nothing wrong with either you or your partner it’s just it’s not happened yet. I look at it a bit like a lottery. Have you spoken to your partner about it? How do they feel? Take care of yourself x

Hellothere0 · 09/01/2019 14:17

Ps sorry for epic reply x

crosser62 · 09/01/2019 14:19

Anything from one month to 2 years.
Everyone is different though.

onedream · 09/01/2019 15:06

Took us 11 months after mc at 8 weeks..tried conceive plus..preseed..nothing worked..we had Gp appointment booked when I found out I'm pregnant again after long 11 months..it was my second month doing temping so I would give it a go if you not doing it already..I'm 26 weeks now and still can't believe it sometimes that it's happening..don't loose hope and keep trying wish you the best of luck x

Lbwestf123 · 09/01/2019 15:17

I miscarried in June too.

Found out I’m pregnant in December again.

It was the first month I’d tried not to think about it as much and test early etc. I’m not sure if that had anything to do with it. X

whiteonesugar · 09/01/2019 16:28

With my first MC it was 8 months before I conceived again, sadly i lost it but fell 2 months later, lost that and fell 2 months later again, then fell 2 months later after starting treatment for recurrent mc. This time i MC in Sept and fell immediately after (no period) and am now 16 weeks.

It varies wildly. Don't give up xxx

CobaltRose96 · 09/01/2019 17:59

I suffered a miscarriage at 12 weeks back in April. I had to have a D&C. I found out I was pregnant again in June and am now 31 weeks Smile

Huffleypuff · 09/01/2019 18:01

It took me 7 months only to have another miscarriage. We then used protection for 3 months and tried to focus on other things. When we started trying again it took 2 months and the pregnancy went to term.

BertieBotts · 09/01/2019 18:18

Hi OP, the combination of difficulty getting pregnant and miscarriage is so cruel. The lengths of time you mention though are not unusually long - on average most couples will conceive 1/5 months and the average time of conception is about 3-4 months. OTOH a lot of people are lucky enough to get pregnant in the first 2 months, but the logic also follows that if you're less lucky, then you can wait 6-8 or more before you get a positive, without anything being wrong. It's simply rolling a dice and hoping for a 6, sometimes you'll get it straight away and sometimes it seems to be ages before one turns up. There is nothing wrong with the dice, it is just how random chance works.

If you started TTC in Feb and lost a baby at 6 weeks in June you probably conceived with a cycle started in April, which would put you at about 4 cycles to conceive which is totally normal.

Then my doctor told us to discount the first 2 cycles after a miscarriage (I am a bit sceptical about this, but just to give you a fair shot) - that would take July and August out of the equation and so it's only really been 3-4 cycles since then. I would give it until March or April in your shoes and then go to the GP and ask if they would refer you for testing, unless either of you is over 35, and then it would be worth asking now.

Good luck :) I'm sure you'll get your rainbow.

SSRainbow · 09/01/2019 18:56

Four months both times... I took B6 to regulate my progesterone and this seemed to work for all of my pregnancies. Good luck 💙

HayleyHaystack · 09/01/2019 20:25

First pregnancy I miscarried in April - naturally, between 8-9 weeks. We didn’t start trying again until everything went back to normal, so I think that was around June-July. Zero pressure or stress, if it happened, it happened. I fell pregnant again in October and I’m now 15 weeks. So far everything has gone really well. Best of luck to you ❤️

HayleyHaystack · 09/01/2019 20:26

Oh and I’m 35 if that helps you x

shggg245 · 09/01/2019 20:29

I was advised to wait a couple of months but ended up pregnant after only one period post miscarriage (9 weeks) . I was naturally worried but all was good.

chloworm · 09/01/2019 20:34

Lost my baby in April 2008, immediately fell pregnant again and had my daughter in January 2009. Her 10th birthday is fast approaching.

Best of luck, it sounds like things are quite normal in your case so hopefully no need to worry.

BeckyButterfly · 09/01/2019 21:28

Hi!

I had a miscarriage in July after having started trying in January. I found out I was pregnant again in November. I am now 12 weeks and just waiting to go for my dating scan next week (fingers crossed!)

mrsof20118 · 09/01/2019 21:34

I had a mc at 5 weeks I September. I ovulated late the following cycle (cd19) and had a short luteal phase that month so a really short cycle. I conceived the following month and was very persistent with ovulation strips and followed SMEP and used conceive plus too.

Original poster
Rebeccamt · 10/01/2019 11:37

My husband is 43 and I am 29, GP told him that the age of 35 is just for the female. I feel he slightly fobbed us off..

I think its harder as each month the goes by pms symptoms seem to get worse and each month I think this is our month.

People say forget about trying and just have fun. But can you ever really stop thinking about wanting a child? I dont think its really possible. :(

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Jellyfish4 · 10/01/2019 13:36

So sorry you’re in this situation. I had a mc in October at 12 weeks although baby was underdeveloped and we were basically told we were probably going to lose them...well we did, and I had a D&C third week of Oct.
Recently found out I’m pregnant again (end of December) which would have been first cycle after my first period. I guess relaxing is good advice, but I was not relaxed at all aha. Everyone’s different though - I think excessive charting and opks can make people obsessed, but I found knowing what my body was doing gave me a sense of control even when I knew I essentially had none, so do whatever makes you feel more comfortable.
Wishing you all the luck, hoping you get good news soon!

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