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Talk about every stage of pregnancy, from early symptoms to preparing for birth.

Pregnancy after 4 losses - really low

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Huncamuncaa · 07/01/2019 21:21

I've had 4 losses and a healthy son who is nearly 4. 3 of the miscarriages were after he was born, which somehow made it worse as i was hoping he'd have a sibling and i felt like id let him down.
OH and i had a load of nhs and private investigations which brought up issues for both of us. We knew the chances of having another healthy pregnancy was low and told (by a private fertility clinic) that ivf was our only real hope. We decided against it. I couldnt put us through the emotional turmoil and having to fund it ourselves was a factor.
We were a bit gutted but ready to move on.
We were about to get a puppy but then ...im pregnant.
My new consultant (nhs) is amazing. Really positive. Im on new meds with weekly scans starting next week. I know we could have what we really want but im too scared to get my hopes up.
I am hating every second of this. Im only 5 weeks and hating the fragmin injections i have to give myself. I just feel this pregnancy is doomed and feel sick when i think of next weeks scan, thinking of all the babies which i only ever saw on scans.
OH is being a nightmare. Also really negative and constantly asking for text updates on how im feeling. I feel like hes also written off this pregnancy, though he wont say it.
I dont know how to cope with this. Anyone been through similar?

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Smurf123 · 07/01/2019 21:31

Hi sorry you are having a hard time.. I had 3 mc before my son arrived 10 months ago. I found the pregnancy really difficult and my dh just didn't get it out understand why I was so anxious.. One thing that really helped me was a thread on here.. It's fresh start for pregnancy after loss / miscarriage
Everyone has been in the same place and are all really supportive and I just felt I was able to say honestly how I was feeling or ask questions when I was worried.. Definitely helped me get from scan to scan!
I really hope all goes well for you

Huncamuncaa · 07/01/2019 21:42

Thanks. I could do with others in this boat!

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Smurf123 · 07/01/2019 22:07

Fresh Start thread for pregnancy after miscarriage or loss - 2 www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3430115-Fresh-Start-thread-for-pregnancy-after-miscarriage-or-loss-2

Not sure if I'm doing this right but I think that's the link

Iswallowtoothpaste · 07/01/2019 22:37

I’ve had 4 MC in total but not consequtive my. I had 2 before DD was born and 2 after - the most recent was a MMC back in June. I’m now 19 weeks pregnant and everything appears to be going well so far Smile

Everything crossed for you OP

SW2Sugar · 08/01/2019 09:03

I'm so sorry for all you're going through, pregnancy after loss is hard!
I've had five miscarriages, no live births, the investigations didn't show anything, but I'm now 32 weeks pregnant by nothing short of a miracle.
I wrote of this pregnancy at the beginning and just went to fortnightly scans dreading it. Each time I couldn't believe it was ok and I was beside myself at the 12 week scan when they actually said "Congratulations." The first time we'd ever heard that at that gestation.
Keep your head up and do whatever you need to do to cope. Though I hated the scans, they did help and I think they provide reassurance.
I hope time speeds by for you and you get your rainbow baby. Flowers

aetw · 08/01/2019 10:38

Just to say I’m sorry you feel like this but that I totally get it. I also have had four losses and I now have a healthy 10 week old and those fears turn into her dying etc... I don’t think you ever get over the losses and that’s normal. It’s really good news you are being so closely monitored and have medication. Those fragments injections are evil but worth it in the end? 12 weeks will be here in no time and you will feel much better. Good luck to you.

Huncamuncaa · 08/01/2019 16:48

Thanks so much for the supportive messages. Will definitely check that thread. I guess i wish i could enjoy this news a little bit but i really cant. I was going through the photo albums i have of my little boy yesterday and in most of the photos i know i was pregnant and how many weeks i was. Its made me bring it all to the front of my mind and i hate it.

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