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First health visitor appointment tomorrow, what to expect?

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CobaltRose96 · 06/01/2019 12:31

Hi all!

I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant with my first baby and have my first health visitor appointment tomorrow morning.

I have no idea what to expect! I feel like I have to clean the house from top to bottom, dole myself up (which will be hard as I currently have a stinking cold!), make everything spick and span.... can you tell this is my first?

Will she even look around the house? What can I expect?

Thanks

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123bananas · 06/01/2019 12:37

No they will not look round the house. They mainly ask questions about you and your family support. It is to identify if there are any areas such as housing, finance or mental health that you might need extra support with. It is also so that when you have had baby and are feeling sleep deprived and possibly a bit vulnerable/ emotional that your health visitor is someone you feel you can talk to and not just a stranger turning up on your doorstep.

Pigriver · 06/01/2019 16:46

I remember being so nervous. My house was spotless and Dh weeded the garden!
It was basically an introduction and a chat. She only came in the living room. Talked about preparations, gave me the red book and some leaflets and we discussed childcare (I totally should have listened to her warnings about looking before Baby was born)

m4rdybum · 06/01/2019 17:33

I'm 39+2 and not had a health visitor appointment yet? Only midwife?

Blondiecub0109 · 06/01/2019 17:36

Ditto ... no HV ... wasn’t expecting to see them until after baby is here and I’m ‘signed off’ by the midwife? Maybe it’s different in different locations.

Bunnybaubles · 06/01/2019 19:07

I got a letter through the post when I was around 28 wks from the midwife saying she would like to visit and meet me before baby arrived. It's optional.

mrsed1987 · 06/01/2019 21:59

Im 37 weeks tomorrow and nothing about h/v yet. At ante natel 2 had already heard from them at 30 weeks and the rest (3 of us) heard nothing...we live in the same area. Im going to ask midwife on tuesday

H/v visit is nothing to worry about though

Marshmallow91 · 06/01/2019 23:11

I'm 33 weeks tomorrow with my first and had the HV out beginning of this week.

To be honest I scrubbed the house as much as I could (my partner was convinced I was flapping for no reason, and I have terrible pelvic pain, as well as being right in the middle of redecorating the bathroom)
I had a bit of a moment later that evening because my little ones room isn't ready yet and was convinced I'd be told I'm a terrible person for not having everything perfect by now.

As always, my partner was absolutely right. She just came into living room, and spoke to me about my birth plan, checking if I had everything I need for baby (I pretty much do) and checking on my support network.
It was actually a nice chat, rather than the 'interrogation' I'd originally assumed it'd be.

MADASANOWL · 07/01/2019 04:47

After scrubbing our house top to bottom in addition to all the nesting i’d been doing anyway and pestering my husband to complete the bulk of the redecorating she only came in as far as the living room!
She was really nice and just asked some questions about how I was feeling and how we were getting on with preparing, had I given much thought to where I wanted to give birth and breastfeeding, had I read about sids etc.
Then she just asked if I had any questions, told me not to hesitate to get in contact if I needed any advice or extra support with breast feeding or in case of hormones playing up and pnd.

WhirlieGigg · 07/01/2019 04:52

They come so you’re familiar with them before the baby arrives. They’re looking for severe signs of neglect or abuse and couldn’t care less about the garden or the dishes etc!

Justanothermum95 · 07/01/2019 05:08

At our first appointment, like everyone else said, she just asked some questions and gave us loads of leaflets. It's just to get to know you before the baby arrives.

I scrubbed the house top to bottom and was really impressed with myself but she didn't really pay much attention 😂

once our little one was born the cleaning was left for a little while and she didn't care so don't panic :)

mumofmunchkin · 07/01/2019 10:37

I really think the letter from them should include “this isn’t a house inspection, please don’t clean especially for the visit! It is just to have a chat with you about your impending baby and to check that you are feeling ok.” !

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