Pre scan worries

[Mrsmummy90]

A bit of back story, with my dd I had horrific anxiety in the pregnancy and had 2 early scans before my 12 week scan came around. I had HG and was miserable and in pain for the entire pregnancy.
I was constantly worried about the well-being of my unborn child and could never relax.

I'm pregnant again and made an active decision to be calmer during this pregnancy. I am now 12 weeks pregnant and have my first scan on Thursday.
I'm starting to worry that they won't find a heartbeat or they'll say that there's nothing there.
I'm trying to calm myself and tell myself that these are just normal worries. The thing is, I don't know if these ARE just normal worries or if my anxiety is creeping back.

I'm not really sure what I'm looking for by posting this but I guess I just want reassurance?
Has anyone else had these worries and everything be fine?

I think it's very normal to worry about the 12 week scan. I certainly am (and still have two weeks to go!) and my SIL told me she was terrified as well, even though she's generally quite a relaxed person (whereas worrying is my supertalent ). And she was fine, of course! I think you shouldn't worry about the worry, if you see what I mean.

However, if your anxiety is overwhelming, there's also no point in suffering if you could get help for it. Did you get any couselling in your first pregnancy? As soon as I told my midwife I am feeling very anxious, she referred me to the mental-health-in-pregnancy specialist psychiatrist. I haven't seen him yet so don't know how useful it is, but it might be something to ask your midwife/doctor?

Thanks for replying!

Glad to hear I'm not alone lol. Yes, I had therapy in my last pregnancy and it helped me with stress management. I have genuine memory problems and can't remember any of what I was taught though 🙈😂

I really hope your therapy goes well as it was fab for me. I think I'll take your advice and contact my doctor about getting re-referred. I'm determined not to get swallowed whole by anxiety this time.