8 month baby and found out im pregannt

[Lanlou]

I have the best 8 month old baby and a 8 year old and i found out im pregnant. Im freaking out. Can i really cope with 2 young kids under a year and a half. Im not with the dad we just fall into bed sometimes but hes a great dad to my 8 month old and the elder (not his) Parents with more than 1 young child i need your advice please.

What do you mean by 'fall into bed'? Congrats btw. It's doable but you will find it very hard with out full support from father.

Have sex sometimes* ...he is really supportive and would provide in all aspects. I just know it would turn my life upside down.

In what way would it turn your life upside down? Only you know what's best for your family. Can you financially support as well as dad?

You'll do great! I did it years ago, had 2 babies close in age, same as you actually, 8 month old and found out I was expecting again. The thought of it was way worse than living it.

They are all grown up and I loved it so much im doing it all over again lol. I have a 6 month old baby and am 3 months pregnant (definitely my last tho).

Good thing is we get to use all our baby equipment again so will save a fortune than having to buy again. Plus I kept all DD's baby clothes in case I'm having another girl.

With DD being only 1 years old when the new baby comes I'll keep her in her buggie and buy a sling for the new baby so going out won't be a problem. I did that last time which worked great so no need to buy a double buggie.

It does sound daunting but sounds like you do have lots of support. Congrats on your good news 😊

I got pregnant again with DD was eight months as well- it was planned, but I didn’t think it would happen so quickly. It took me a while for it to sink in and definitely took longer to “bond” with this pregnancy as I just kept thinking “fuck there’s going to be two of them!”

I’m 31 weeks now and feeling pretty chill about it- yes, it’s going to be hectic but that’ll be temporary. I’m hopeful that the small gap will mean that they develop a close sibling relationship as they grow up.

Thanks ladies, its just the age gap thats been freaking me out a little. And i was finally just starting to feel me again after my last pregnancy aswell, i think i was just made to have babies tho haha.

Can you afford to have another one? If so, happy days you'll manage.
The only problem is IF (note IF) you can't support an extra child on your wages alone you don't get any extra in the way of tax credits etc.
I'm NOT assuming you claim anything as a lot of us lone parents do, but I know people who had babies this year who were not aware of the cap.

Yeah i am aware of the 3rd child no payments thing. He is self employed, works hard and is wanting to support this growing family. He wanted more children and would love for me to be a stay at home mum and raise them. May not be conventional since we aint together but we co parent amazing and hes like my best friend. My 2 kids atm dont want for anything.

I had four dc close together. First two are 14 months apart, second two are 16 months apart. All in all I had four aged five and under and when my youngest was a year old I became a lone parent. You will be just fine and hopefully your dc will be really close like my four!

I have exactly that age gap. 17 months. It's lovely. Hard for first few years or course but they are so close. You can do it !

Well it certainly sounds doable. Families come in all shapes and sizes. You'll cope with the age gap. Remember it will be at least 6 months before they are mobile.