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Positive single mum stories?

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Nss95 · 02/01/2019 19:05

I’m 22w+2d pregnant, my ex partner is unsure he wants to be involved and I’m almost certain he wont be. It doesn’t upset me as much as it used to as I’ve come to terms with it and I can’t wait to meet my little girl. There’s hardly any positive single mum stories online and I just feel I need to read some, just for some positive vibes I guess :)

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JamieOliversChickenNugget · 02/01/2019 19:11

Aw, you will be very close to your little girl. I think single parenting is hard but you are so much closer to your child not having a man around, men are hard work and take up a lot of time. You will be able to put that time into your child.
Honestly, it will be fine. Just try to enlist some close people to support you as you will need a rest from time to time x

lattesforlife · 02/01/2019 19:16

Ds dad left when I was pregnant, and i have to be honest that it was hardwhen he was small. He didn’t sleep much as a baby / toddler and I was so worried I was going to mess things up, that I struggled to accept help. So, I’m retrosepct, please take every single offer of help you can!

My Ds is a wonderful, kind, thoughtful and funny boy. He’s at a private school and top of his class. We are incredibly close and i am so proud of the boy he is.

It got a million trillion times easier once he went to nursery. As kids get older, parents split up (sorry for negative stance!) so I felt I lost a lot of the stigma of being a single parent - I didn’t stand out as much I guess.

You will do brilliantly, you will have an incredible bond. Your child will have all of your attention, and resources, and you won’t be worn down by a struggling relationship.

I am cheering you on!

BeverlyZimek · 02/01/2019 19:17

I’m 34 weeks with twins tomorrow and their dad has made it clear he won’t be involved despite me saying he can be if he wants and at first that freaked me out especially since I’m only 19 but I’m feeling so much better now as I think I could be a really good mum with so much love to give my little girls. I also have an incredible family that said they will be there to help me should I need it! Here’s to strong single mums ❤️

Scottay · 02/01/2019 20:38

I'm 21 weeks and doing it alone. My ex drinks too much and that's not what I want my baby being brought up around. Whilst not ideal it's not made me less excited about meeting my wee one, if anything it makes me more determined for the baby to have a great start. Sure we'll all make amazing and strong mum's

Lavender00 · 02/01/2019 20:47

I've raised my DS alone from birth and he's almost 12 now. We've had our ups and downs but have always been incredibly close. During these years I've also worked full time (reduced to 30 hours until DS started school) and gained several promotions. I own my own home and have a new car. I'm incredibly proud of myself, and of my DS. I've been single all that time too and this occasionally bothered me in the early years but I'm come to love my single life and love myself more in the process. Not only is it possible, it can be amazing. Good luck OP

57MtPleasantStreet · 02/01/2019 20:53

Been single from the outset, exH cleared off before I found out I was pregnant and has had no involvement at all (his choice). Whilst this has been very difficult on many levels, it also makes it easier too,.... no Dad is better than a shitty one.

DS now 6, he's the best thing that has ever happened to me. Smile Now he's at school I know plenty of other single parents.

It is really hard when they are babies, however I don't regret a second of it.

(Usually in bed by 9pm most nights though!)

LRL2017 · 02/01/2019 20:55

I split from my husband when my little girl was 9 months though to be fair I did most of it alone anyway. It's hard but when you look at your child it just melts away, I love how she just smiles at me now and says ma-ma it makes it all better!

GoneToTheBeach10 · 02/01/2019 21:08

There are a lot of plus sides to being a single parent, you can do everything your way, chilled atmosphere in the house, no football on the telly (unless you like football of course lol) what I mean is, you can put what you want on the telly! I just found I had more mental space to focus on my child's needs and I think this has helped to create a really good bond between us.
Look online at the Gingerbread single parent website, they have local groups where you can meet up with other single parents in your area and there is lots of good advice on the website too X

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