Hi everyone, I REALLY hope I’ve posted this in the right forum, but please excuse me if I’ve got it wrong!
Me & my partner have been talking about having our 3rd baby ( would most likely start TTC next year). My 2 current children were born naturally and both inductions. I had preeclampsia in both pregnancies and the first labor and birth were very much taken over by drs and midwives, my second baby I delivered on my own (in hospital). I started getting twinges the night before, Next morning 10 mins after the midwife examend me Saying I was 2cms I had progressed to 7cms, and she was born in 30 minutes. Unfortunately I had a 3RD degree tear graded a C and i was really lucky to recover almost fully in terms of controlling my bowels etc.
I was told by the surgeon the next baby (although I was adamant my 2nd was my last) would HAVE to be born via cseciton and when I had my gynae follow up she also said it would have to be a csection due to a shortened Perinium. she said If I tore again then chances are my recovery wouldn’t be nearly as good as this time around.
So my fear is that both my babies have been born pretty quickly and my labours have both been very short, I’m so scared that if I went into labor at home before I reached my csection date I wouldn’t even have chance to get to the hospital let alone them do a emergency csection ( with my 2nd it was a complete out of body experience and I had no control whatsoever). Is there anything the hospital would be able to do to prevent me going into labor as I dawn in to my due date? Or has anyone experienced anything similar? I don’t want to put off having another baby just because of fear, I feel like later on in life I will kick myself for not taking the risk. At the same time I would likely end up with a colostomy bag If I had another natural birth.. would be great to hear if anyone’s had anything similar and could shed some light on this subject that seems (to me) like a dream that may never happen..