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Miscarriage 15 weeks

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Emarksthespot · 29/12/2018 22:27

So I went to the hospital today as I have been having lower back cramps and they have told me they couldn’t find a heartbeat. I opted to go home and see if I can pass this naturally but as much as they tell what will happen. What actually happens? I’m scared, I’m alone. My ex boyfriend knows I’m pregnant and hasn’t told anyone I think he secretly he wanted this.

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Clearthinking · 29/12/2018 22:41

Oh my days I'm so sorry x

Clearthinking · 29/12/2018 22:43

As it sounds I'm afraid, it's awful but look after yourself. Pain, bleeding, large clot. I do hope you will be ok. See gp get counselling x

Santaisfastasleepatlast · 29/12/2018 22:46

Tmi op but you could pass an intact foetus op. If you feel out of your depth do ring for an ambulance.
Sorry for your loss.
Flowers

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Emarksthespot · 29/12/2018 22:51

Thank you all for your kind words. I have myself booked in for an appt in the week for a check up.

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Diane0313 · 29/12/2018 23:13

Omg I'm so sorry what will happen now did you bleed how did you know x

sh13 · 29/12/2018 23:55

Do you have any family that can be with you ? if it’s too much definitely call ambulance an get some support from hospital. So deeply sorry x x

Eh1112 · 30/12/2018 00:17

I'm so so sorry to hear that OP. I haven't had any losses at 15 weeks but I've had a few around the eight week mark. All of mine started with spotting and period like cramps followed by lots of red bleeding and large clots. At eight weeks I was able to clearly see the sac and everything inside as I passed it. It's painful and miserable but it doesn't last forever. On all occasions the cramping lessened soon after passing the sac. Please, please call for help if you have any concerns about blood loss or need additional support. Personally I would also tell someone else close to you (a close friend or family member?) as I found I needed support as my partner was also suffering. Thinking of you xx

Busymummy16 · 30/12/2018 00:31

I am so so sorry to hear that OP. I hope you have some support. I had a MC at 11 weeks and lost a lot of blood and had to go to A&E (had surgery in the end), please seek help if you need it, if blood loss too heavy and pain bad - thinking of you xxx

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Emarksthespot · 30/12/2018 11:29

I just had serve shooting pains and cramps. No spotting yet. Just sitting here, well laying here with a puppy pad.

Busymummy16 did you have any check ups after. I really can’t face going into the hospital again.

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Santaisfastasleepatlast · 30/12/2018 11:32

I passed an intact 8 week feotus after actual contractions and the urge to push.
Pain and bleeding subsided very soon after. Do not be too worried about calling someone.

Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/12/2018 15:48

Hi OP, firstly, I’m so, so sorry that this has happened. Was the baby 15 weeks when the HB stopped or did it stop a bit earlier? I only ask because I know that up to a certain point you can have a D&C which is what I opted for when our baby died at 9+3. The thought of it terrified me at first but I was so pleased that I opted for this management in the end. I don’t know whether that’s an option for you OP.

Thinking of you, you poor thing Flowers

Gobletoffire · 30/12/2018 15:56

So sorry OP. Did the hospital give you any other options other than to pass the foetus at home? I would strongly advise you to contact a family member or close friend so that you’re not alone. Otherwise then please make sure you phone for an ambulance if it gets too much for you. Xx

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Emarksthespot · 30/12/2018 16:00

They offered a d and c but I thought I’d be brave and come home. My boyfriend is being really horrible.

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Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/12/2018 16:03

@Emarksthespot, Why on earth is he being horrible to you? Do you have anyone else for support nearby?

brokenhead · 30/12/2018 16:08

Oh gosh I would go to hospital

Any pain relief?

niamhzs · 30/12/2018 16:16

So sorry for your loss. I don't have advise but jumping on post as I too have been told today I lost my baby and opted to let my body miscarry naturally. I'm not actually sure what I'm waiting for.. I've had a bit of bleeding ( which led me to go to hospital) and I've got really bad cramps. I was meant to be 12+1 but sadly baby stopped growing at 8 weeks. Will I still pass a clot? I just want this over with now the pain is horrible 😔

Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/12/2018 16:22

@niamhzs I’m so sorry to hear this too! My friend M/C’d at 8 weeks too and she said that the amount of blood was alarming but there wasn’t a great deal of pain and the pain that she did have was short lived and stopped pretty much as soon as she passed the sac (which was intact)

I wish you both all the best xxx

Skybooks · 30/12/2018 16:26

Hi I recently had a loss at 12 weeks although baby had stopped at 9 weeks, I went home from my scan and returned the next day to medically manage.

I receive pessaries to bring on 'Labour ' miscarriage and pain relief and returned home.

Did they say when you babies heartbeat had stopped?

Knowing my baby had stopped weeks before meant I didn't want to wait to see if it would pass naturally.

I'm so sorry you are going though this, please reach put and talk to someone, here or I rl.

niamhzs · 30/12/2018 16:45

@Iswallowtoothpaste thanks for replying. Sorry to hear about your friend. I haven't felt anything up until yesterday apart from pregnancy symptoms sore boobs etc. I had a scan at 7week5 days and all was well, apparently baby stopped growing at 7week6days , I was cramping so much yesterday but more like period cramps and I would usually be due on now so didn't think much of it! Was only alarmed when bleeding but it was very little and still is now. Sorry for tmi but it's just brown now and there every time I wipe. I'm in so much pain though. Feel like I need to go for a number 2

Iswallowtoothpaste · 30/12/2018 16:57

@niamhzs I’m so sorry, we too had had a good scan in June this year only to find that baby had died around 2 weeks later. It’s one of th most traumatising things you can go through. I will never forget being told that there was no HB. All my M/C’s have started with very little bleeding, the last one I barely had any bleeding and period like cramps are soooo common in pregnancy anyway that I really tried not to freak.

Having said that the pregnancy I had with DD I had slight bleeding too and also with this one (17+5 now) I had bleeding at 12 and 13 weeks.

Is there anyone there to support you? Did they send you away with any painkillers? If it gets unbearable definitely ring for an ambulance. I’m just sorry that both of you are having to go through this shit, especially at this time of year.

pawprintsonyoursoul · 30/12/2018 19:39

Look after yourself OP, so sorry for your loss.

I passed so much blood on my miscarriage, big whooshes of blood I can only describe as the equivalent of diarrhoea, I couldn't control or stop it, I had to just sit on the toilet. In the end I had a D&C, after bleeding for 10 days.

My first bleed started about 48 hours after the major pains, but the thing is you just don't know when it will happen. Some days I managed to go out with big nighttime pads on, but others I couldn't. I soaked my trousers a few times. I didn't have much pain, a bit of cramping but I would of got a D&C immediately if I had realised how long it would go on for.

TokenGinger · 30/12/2018 21:05

OP, did they scan? When I had my midwife appointment a few weeks ago, I was a few days before 16 weeks. She told me not to panic if they didn't find a heartbeat as it is very difficult to find one before 16 weeks. I don't say that to give you false hope, I'd hate to do that, but I'm just concerned going off what my MW said about heartbeats if that's all they've done with you.

mmmgoats · 30/12/2018 21:10

hi op so sorry for you
some things that might help you:
If anyone can get you some Tena lady pants I found these a lifesaver as the bleeding can start at any time and can be light or quite heavy
Bleeding often described as like a light period but can be much heavier and you might feel contraction like cramps - solpadeine plus painkiller really helped me
hot water bottle ditto

Mine started late one night and continued pretty much for 4-5 days but I felt the sack pass as it was more pressure and a real whoosh that’s the only way I can describe it. I still had bleeding for two weeks after this - more like a usual period - but you’ll need time to recover emotionally as well. are there friends/family who can support you?

make sure you are kind to yourself. make sure you have snacks, keep drinking water and have distractions (as best as you can) such as Netflix etc.
if you’re worried about anything or something doesn’t seem right call you epu.

It’s never a good time but I’ve had both my losses over Christmas and it’s really hard - will be thinking of you xx

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Emarksthespot · 01/01/2019 16:55

I think I’ve passed everything last night (great New Years) I was in serve pain. Some clumps came out and then the pain started to ease away wasn’t as much blood as I thought

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