Cannot stand partner during pregnancy... normal?

[CobaltRose96]

Hi all,

I'm currently 30 weeks pregnant with my first baby. Pretty much since I found out I was pregnant I've found my partner incredibly irritating! He's not actually done anything to make me feel this way, but frankly most of the time I'd rather he went away!

I cannot stand to be touched by him and my sex drive has disappeared completely (haven't had sex since I found out I was pregnant as it actually kinda repulses me ATM). Even when he's just putting his arm around me or hugging me I have to physically stop myself from pulling away! Sometimes I look at him and wonder how I ever found him attractive enough to make a baby with! I cherish the times that he's at work and I've got the house to myself.

I feel like such a cow as he's not actually done anything wrong and has only been loving and supportive. I try not to let my irritation with him show, but I'm sure he's picked up on it. This only started once I found out I was pregnant, I actually normally like DP quite a bit

Can anyone else relate?

Unfortunately when pregnant due to hormones your senses can go into overdrive and so can your mood including libido. This is one reason why some women have issues with the combined or mini-pill as it effects all these.

I'm ten weeks and our relationship has been a disaster since we finally conceived through IVF. He has freaked out that I'm pregnant and is very negative about having the baby. I react extremely angrily and emotionally and the whole situation is explosive. Public rows taken to a new level 😔

I think hormones have something to do with it, but with us there is more of a specific reason

I think it's fairly normal! I don't feel like sex at all when I'm pregnant and I think the hormones make you irritable anyway. I suppose it makes sense really.

I'm 26+4 and haven't had sex with DH since I conceived, have barely slept in the same bed because his snoring (frankly just his breathing) makes me want to kill him! I don't remember it being this bad with DS (until DS was born, then it was quite bad!) but am just keeping fingers crossed things will eventually improve. Solidarity!

Haha yes didn’t sleep in the same bed for a while because his snoring and general fafing around in bed annoyed the heck out of me. Also his breathing in bed haha. I’m at 28 weeks now can tolerate him again for the moment but probably will kick him out of bed soon again as it’s been getting uncomfy to sleep. I’m not a fan of being touchy geeky either other my massages haha. Think it’s all normal

yes! I can fully agree.
all.will.be fine it's hormones

Yup, couldn't bear him for at least 6 months after the baby was born either. I think it was a combination of hormones, tiredness and a feeling that he didn't really understand (pregnancy and looking after a baby). We weathered the storm and had another DC.