Pregnant for second time

[cheekypepper]

Hi, I'm two and a bit weeks away from having my second child by c-section. Right now I'm having massive panic attacks about the whole thing. My DS is my whole world and I'm terrified of going into hospital and leaving him. We have involved him in everything to do with the baby and he knows that he is goingto have a sister. All I keep doing at the moment is get myself in a state about not having any time for him anymore once the baby comes. I know this sounds stupid but I'm really worried about it.

I'm pg with second too, sounds very normal I've got a great book called "Going from one to two" and the many issues surrounding this are dealt with, your ds is going to love having a sister especially if you make it fun and positive for him. maybe let dad do some of the important things now bath, bedtime so he is a little less dependant on you and feels less jealous when baby comes.

Me too! My DD is three months away from having nothing to do but wait for her turn

I feel sorry for her already and am trying hard not to think about it! I'm also worried that it'll be the new baby that gets neglected, due to my love for DD (she's my little angel, despite driving me up the wall all day LOL) and so I'm then worried about not bonding with new baby and my train of thought eventually leads me to being sectioned in an asylum unable to see either child or the light of day!!!!!
I have a rather vivid imagination!!
Sorry if this has got you thinking the same LOL
Keep busy, clean the house ten times over and you'll be fine (unless of course THEY are watching and then we'll be put away for that instead LOL)

I'm with you too! 3 months to go until poor ds existence as the apple of our eye is disrupted...

Hi Uki - is the book any good? Would you recommend it?

I had my second child (DD)last year and I too had the same worries. Although I don't spend as much time alone with DS as I used to, he adores his little sister and I love having 2 kids. I kept DS very involved in the pregnancy and after she was born. He likes helping her now she is crawling and they bath together, eat meals together etc and is always kissing her and telling me how much he loves her. DH does more things alone with DS, like playing football etc but then DH will have DD for a while so me and DS can have some 'mummy and DS' time together.

I think it is normal to have these worries. You will be suprised how much your love doubles when your new lo's arrive and that although you may not be able to devote all your time to your first borns, they will understand, especially if they are involved with the new babies.

Good luck to you all

Hi Mump

Yes i think the book is good, I bought it on amazon for $1 US, so worth it.

'From one child to Two' by judy Dunn, My version is 1995 but the cover looks 1985 lady on cover with newborn and frilly sleeved powder blue long dress with extra frills at the bottom.....nice

very gone with the wind actually.

Monkeyand baby.. - great post thank you [smille]

OH MY, THIS IS SO APPROPRIATE, I'M 21 WEEKS PG AND HAVE NEVER LEFT MY TWO YR OLD DS,I'M PROB MORE SCARED THAN HE IS! MY MAIN WORRY, STUPID I KNOW, IS THAT I WON'T BE ABLE TO LOVE SECOND BABE AS MUCH! MY MOTHER MADE HUGE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN ME AND MY BROTHERS AND NOW DOES WITH MY NIECE AND NEPHEW, JUST DON'T THINK SHE LIKES GIRLS, WHAT IF I DO THE SAME?

This is the other thing that concerns me. I have always been more forhaving boys than girls. I have a three year old niece and I have trouble getting on with her, shes very difficult to love if you know what I mean. I'm over the moon to be having a girl but there is a big part of me that is panicking that I won't have enough lovefor her as I do for ds. I'm having similar thoughts to Kylala with my vivid imagination aswel. My main nightmare at the moment is going off to hospital for the c-section and not coming out of it. I know this is crazy but at 3am when this panic attack comes over me all rational thought goes out the window. Is it just me??

I've just had my second baby (3 weeks ago by elective section) and I too worried about how my beloved DD was going to cope. She has been fine. theworst bit was the last few weeks of the pregnancy as i was too tired to give her as much attention. after that she was ok, dh was around to give her lots of attention. i was only in hospital for 2 and a half days and she visited each day. we had a present from the baby for her on her first visit, and then dh took her shopping so she could pick out a teddy for the baby from her. She loves helping me by getting his nappies out etc.

I won't lie - it is hard work and recovering from a section when you want to be getting stuck in with your little ones is a pain .. but it is ok and just remember that it doesn't last long. I am starting to get more mobile and babies sleep a lot so you do still have time for your other child!!

Good luck and congratulations!!!

(excuse shocking typing - baby asleep on chest...)

Hi. I had ds2 by cs 5 months ago and the two of them are now such a delight together. DS1 (19 mo) gets up every morning and demands to see his brother and when we pick him up from nursery, ds2 gazes at him all the way home in the car and giggles hysterically when he fools around. It's so lovely to see them together and I really hope they're going to be great pals together as they get older. I love both of them TONS. Even though they can be a bit exhausting.

Thanks everyone for your advise. Feeling a bit brighter about it all now. DS is very excited about having a baby sister I'm just hoping it stays that way once she actually arrives. I can just see it now,"Mummy I'm bored with her now can we have a dog instead"

CheekyPepper,
Glad to hear you feel a bit more positive. Just relax and enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. Your little family will be just fine and between you will welcome your new baby and reassure your DS. It will be ok - I'm sure. My DD is only just 2 but she loves her new brother very much (has said so) Our main panic is trying to stop her from smothering him with love, and mounds of teddies etc! It's all good fun!

cheekypepper - thanks for this thread. I am going from 1 to 2 too My ds is 7 I completely adore him. HE is excited about having a sibling and I really want to make sure he and I still get 1-1 time, as well as time all together etc.