Pregnant with third and worried

[Amy326]

I’ve got 2 dc already, ages 4 and 2. Ever since the second one was born I’ve been broody for a third and thought about it pretty much everyday, but my dh wasn’t sure and we hadn’t made a decision yet. Now I am pregnant by accident (well carelessness on both our parts) and I’m terrified. This is not how I thought I’d feel. Suddenly all the practical reasons to stop at 2 seem very sensible and I’m worried this is a mistake. Nausea has just kicked in and I’m dreading feeling like this for the next few months (it lasted until 20 weeks with both of my previous pregnancies). I don’t really know what I’m asking here but I just feel confused and suddenly the broodiness I had before which was so strong has vanished and I feel content with my 2 lovely children. Has anyone else felt this in pregnancy and it passed? Any mothers of 3 who can reassure me that it’s worth it all in the end?! I’m so upset that I feel like this and don’t feel I can share it in real life.

I am 38 weeks with number 3, my current two are 5 and 3. While it was planned, I did have times of panic after I got pregnant, wondering why we had gone for it and how we would cope. I can only imagine that’s enhanced when it wasn’t planned. Now though, I’m really looking forward to the little one arriving, to our family of 5. I think it’s normal to be nervous at the thought of a big change to the life you know, and it can just take time to get used to the idea.

I'm 34 weeks with dc3 and in exactly the same situation-a much wanted but surprise timing pregnancy and dc2 is still 2. I have moments of panic thinking about it all and I'm very pleased that I've got only few weeks of pregnancy left. I felt like you in the first 15 weeks or so as I felt dreadful and sick l but I had some scary bleeding (luckily all fine) that made me realise how much I did want dc3 then. It made it all seem clearer.

I'm still having a wobble now and then (especially on tired days) but I try and stay rational and not let the panic take over. It's also easier once the pregnancy sickness goes!

Dc3 will be loved and make our family complete. I was apprehensive before the last two dc so I think its normal to panic a bit. I'm expecting the early weeks to be hard but hoping to get to a new 'normal' as soon as I can.

OP, hand on heart, it is and will be 100% worth it. When your baby arrives the memories of the sickness and tiredness and all the tough times vanish too. Pregnancy is challenging especially towards the end but you've got this! My babies are 5, 2 and 1. I fell pregnant accidentally with my third when my second was only 7 months old. It was the biggest and best surprise of my life and I now have a son after 2 beautiful girls. Good luck to you and congratulations!

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with my third. First two are 7 and 5 so bigger age gap and I still feel worried. Excited , but worried. I think its part of the territory ? Congratulations

I have 3ds. Now 12, 10 and 8. The broody stage was really strong even when ds3 was about 1 yr and talking to other mums is quite normal. It stopped when ds3 was about 5yrs but we let our heads rule our hearts so stopped at 3dc! I generally love having 3dc especially when they were little and I worked very part time. I find it more tricky now as I am working nearly full time and the 3ds are very busy. There are challenges to having 3dc but definitely worth it!

Thank you for the responses! I’m sure over time (once the sickness goes and I’ve had the first scan) I will feel happier but at the moment I just feel a bit like ‘what have we done?!’ I do remember feeling similar with both my previous pregnancies though even though they were very much wanted! I just didn’t think I would with a third because I was sooo broody! Now that feeling has just left me.... which isn’t ideal! We haven’t told anyone yet but I’m sort of dreading it, I know whenever I’ve expressed that I’d like a third in the past most people look horrified and have only negative things to say about it...

Completely get where your coming from, I am also pregnant with DC3 only currently 6 week I already have DD6 and DD2 having lost a baby at 8 weeks on 4th October as a shock pregnancy made me realise how much I wanted a third baby, so fx this pregnancy works out. When I told people about my other pregnancy before the MC they only had negative things to say and couldn't understand why we wanted a DC3 and DH was also nervous so I am holding back for obvious reasons this time but also learnt to say to myself you can't please everyone and as long as we are happy all that's matters just knew I wasn't "done" and hopefully this is missing puzzle piece ❤️

Everything comes with challenges I hope the heart warming moments will put weight stressful school runs and back to sleepless nights but I love the baby stage. Good luck in your pregnancy xx

I'm 8 weeks pregnant with a planned DC3, and I'm feeling exactly the same. My morning sickness is a lot worse, I'm on drugs and still pretty much bed / sofa bound - and I feel like I'm letting my existing 2 DC down badly. I'm really hoping I'll feel a bit more positively when the nausea wears off, although based on my last pregnancy that's at least another 8 weeks off....

37 weeks my 3rd. Total shock after we needed fertility treatment for the first two. Plus I am 39. I was horrified and v v scared. Still am a bit scared but have got used to the idea and can't wait to meet her now.

I am currently 18 weeks with my third I have a son age 5 and daughter age 4, I went through a stage before pregnancy been really broody and constantly thinking about having a baby! I never actually planned on having one but have ended up pregnant. I was taken over with anxiety first 2 months of pregnancy really worried about everything how will I cope.. need a bigger car.. bigger house am happy with my two. I have now completely came out of that frame of mind and so excited to have baby no 3. I think it's normal to feel so anxious at the beginning xx

I understand, my two were 4 and 2 and I immediately worried that I was pushing my luck and how could I risk my own health when they depended on me. I felt really guilty about that but baby was delivered safely and she's been a huge blessing to all our lives .