I've got cold feet

[Kourt12]

I'm 11 weeks and I've suddenly got cold feet. I just feel like I don't want this. I've tried for two years, battled through infertility... why don't I want this anymore? What do I do? I can't tell DH. He will be crushed

Sounds like you’re having a bit of a hormonal panic.

I would talk to your midwife. In all likelihood, this will pass but you may need some extra emotional support x

@Stephisaur Thank you. I don't know what to say it doesn't feel like hormones it feels like I've made a huge mistake.

@Kourt12 I was EXACTLY the same.. I was feeling really selfish and started rethinking everything. She took 3 years to conceive and I've realised that it was just hormones and now I cannot wait for her to be here xx

@JustMe18 I've been looking into abortion. I can't believe we tried for two years and went through treatment for me to just throw it away. I hope you're right. When did it pass for you? I'm scared to continue with the pregnancy incase this is a gut feeling rather than a panic and that I've made a mistake.

@Kourt12 It will most definitely pass, I promise, because I'm so happy now. I was on holiday when I was going through it! I should have been elated and buzzing as I was in a beautiful country having the baby we had wished for for years.

I was about 6 weeks when I went through it and it took a good few weeks to go away. As soon as I saw her on the 12 week scan everything changed x

I have this and I'm nearly 15 weeks.. it's really nothing to be concerned about but I wonder if it could give a clue to sex of the baby..
I read that somewhere once 🤔

Just wanted to say I’m feeling the same way at the moment, worrying I’ve made a terrible mistake, I won’t be able to parent, I’ll lose my mind.
I think it’s hard to voice these thoughts because it’s a taboo.

It's probably a real shock now that you are pregnant. We had 5 years ttc no.2 and I still cannot believe we will actually have a baby at the end of this! The 12 weeks scan will make it all sink in better. Infertility consumes everything and you kind of have a different way of life because of it. Even being on the Pregnancy threads is so different to the Conception threads. Everything is changing and many get cold feet with change. But you will feel calmer and happier than you thought. Just give it time get some support from midwife your mum or best friend?

It took us almost 10 years to conceive (currently 29 weeks) and I completely understand what you are talking about. Some days I think OMG what are we doing but it is hormonal. To me it is almost more of a shock that we appear to have been successful and are now on the count down to having a baby. If I am honest I am terrified about it but amazingly excited too.

I feel like misgivings are normal, our bodies are busy doing all sorts of things that they have never done before with hormones going haywire.

Only you know what is the right choice for you but I think there is a good chance it is just hormonal and as you get further along you will be very excited.

Sending you

Lots of people feel like this. Relatively few will own up to it. You haven't made a mistake, it will be ok. Tell your midwife.