Has anyone else been made to feel like just an incubator?

[Ahhphilcollins]

Feeling a bit crappy atm. I’m 33 + 4 and both my MIL and Mum (have a crappy relationship with her anyway) are just making me feel like I’m an incubator. I’m just this vessel.

Anyone else feel the same?

DH’s bonkers aunt once went on a long riff about how good it was that we were having another baby as I’d been proven to ‘throw good foals’.

It was meant as a compliment

Haha throw good foals 😂 not heard that one before

God yes I feel your pain OP. I'm also sick of people TELLING me that I 'won't be able to get rid of them' when the baby is born. Yes I will, I just wont answer the door in the first place 🙃

Yep
My MIL kept "feeding my grandson peas" by putting more on my plate
My mum kept calling him "my baby". When I said he was my baby she said "nope, I am the beginning of it all"

@planespotting
Is your mum Eve? 😂

@bunintheoven88 she is the one to the left

I had long term complications from a very traumatic birth and frequently had people tell me that as long as DS was ok "that was all that mattered" like now I'd given birth i didn't count as a person.

@planespotting 😂😂😂

I feel this on occasion from MIL, though I can see she tries, from her comments it’s clear that the baby is her focus. With my Mum, while she’s excited about the baby it’s obvious that her concern for me outweighs it. Constant references by MIL to the fact that it’s her grandchild in there get my back up more than I feel they should - can you please refer to it occasionally as my child and not claim constant ownership!

My FIL said to me once ‘I hope your looming after my grandchild in there’

Worse because ..... FIL! A man, not evening MIL, mum! ARGH wanker

*looking

So glad I’m not the only one who has to deal with this. My MIL is constantly referring to the baby as her GC, telling me she’ll be staking out the hospital when I am in labour. Has also said to me “no one cares/worries about you, it’s just about the baby”. Also if I’m having a little moan about being pregnant (sore back, baby waking me up kicking etc) she will say something like “good” or “that’s my grand baby”. Pissing me right off!

@charliefarli telling me she’ll be staking out the hospital when I am in labour. and yet another reason why we told nobody we were in labour 😌