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CmeyerM3 · 19/12/2018 20:52

Hi, this is my first pregnancy and I'm 5 weeks along. I'm really struggling with the idea that I may lose my baby to a miscarriage or may already have lost my baby. I've been reading all these threads and its made me really nervous, I was wondering if I should have an early scan in order to see if my baby is even alive.

Any advice is welcome please

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Mikewazowskismrs · 19/12/2018 20:56

Hi there I am 18 weeks tomorrow and I was like this.

I was so worried and was constantly doing tests.

I had a scan at 8 weeks and it helped so much as we got to see our little monsters heartbeat.

Try to take 1 day at a time and distract yourself. If your going for an early scan they say it should be 6 weeks onwards but I think around 8 weeks is a pretty good time.

Good luck !

m4rdybum · 19/12/2018 21:09

My advice would be- stop reading these threads.

I stayed off Mumsnet for the first couple of months of my pregnancy, until my mninng sickness kicked in and I needed support.

I found it stopped me trying to self diagnose every little thing (and make it all 10x worse).

Congratulations on your pregnancy OP Flowers

Stephisaur · 19/12/2018 21:10

Sometimes you need to stop reading the threads.

1/3 women will have a miscarriage. That’s a scary figure. However, only 1% (I think) will have what is called a missed miscarriage. That’s the kind where the baby has died without the mother knowing.

It looks really common on here because women come to share their experiences, but I promise you it isn’t that common.

By all means, book an early scan if you think it will help but you do need to trust your body to a degree. You can’t know what’s going on in there all the time.

Congratulations on your pregnancy xx

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CmeyerM3 · 21/12/2018 21:52

Thank you very much, all your advice is very helpful. hope you all have a good Christmas x

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rj995 · 22/12/2018 08:50

@CmeyerM3 hi op, I'm in the same position as you, almost 5 weeks pregnant with my first and worrying myself about miscarriage ect because I know so many women who have had. the above advice was very helpful, fingers crossed we are both able to relax and really enjoy the experience😊 wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy x

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