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First baby and have no idea what I'm doing!

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CobaltRose96 · 19/12/2018 20:16

So, I'll be 29 weeks on Saturday and it's only really just started to sink in that I'll be bringing a baby home at the end of this!

After a miscarriage at 12 weeks in April I am thrilled that my baby girl is healthy, but I must admit I am terrified!

This will be my first baby. I'm the youngest in my family and have never even held a baby before, let alone changed a nappy or bathed a baby! I'm terrified of giving birth, I'm terrified of having a whole little human who will rely on me totally.

Don't get me wrong, I'm so excited and cannot wait to meet my baby girl, but I must admit to feeling a little lost at sea Grin

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MummyInHeel · 19/12/2018 20:18

Congratulations. All will fall into place... just keep her warm, safe, clean and fed and ask midwifes, health professionals and friends for help and advice on any parts you struggle with. I asked a maternity care assistant to teach me how to change a nappy! Good luck on this exciting journey.

WallisFrizz · 19/12/2018 20:25

If you use disposable nappies, when you open a new one, run your fingertips down the inner seams to open it all out before you put it on. Then when it’s on make sure all frills are out and not tucked in.

Nobody told me this so we had loads of leaks.

Pretty much everything else is instinct and making it up as you go along. You will have good days and bad, which is normal!

Wintermam · 19/12/2018 22:01

My little girl is 18 months old and I'm still winging it! It sounds very cliche but somehow you just know what to do in most situations. All the very best lovely, you're going to be absolutely fine

fabulous01 · 19/12/2018 22:06

Everyone is lost at sea
I have twins and I am thankful each day they are ok. The rest is fine.
It is normal to feel that way xx

TerriB84 · 19/12/2018 22:37

How you are feeling is totally normal. Every new Mum feels this way at some point. And just when you feel like you’re getting the hang of it all everything changes and you have to get to grips with something new!

MagicalCreatures · 19/12/2018 23:06

I’m exactly the same CobaltRose96
I’m 39 weeks Friday, very much planned and wanted baby but sometime I have these moments of sheer panic where I realise there is no turning back. And this little person is going to be all my responsibility.
I’m so excited to meet him, hold him, protect him, love him unconditionally but my god it’s fecking scary.
And I keep telling myself it’s perfectly normal (which it is) and I’m not really alone in this. I have my DH and all my family who are so supportive and a whole bunch of friends who already have kids.
Do you have good support? X x

Unihorn · 19/12/2018 23:10

I was exactly the same with no baby experience, and am also incredibly non-maternal. I had an emergency section so missed a lot of the post birth stuff with my daughter and was in a lot of pain. My husband did all the nappy changes for the first day. I first changed her on day two and was terrified I was doing it wrong! He had to show me a few times... It all comes together somehow.

Squiff70 · 19/12/2018 23:13

I'm 16 weeks pregnant with twins - first babies - and have no idea what I'm doing either. I find out this weekend (hopefully) what sexes they are and I know that'll make it more real but my word it IS fecking very, VERY scary! It's a very long time since I changed a nappy (my God-daughter is 13 now but I looked after her a lot when she was tiny) and last time I held a baby a few weeks ago it was awkward as I didn't know how to hold him!

Most of it will come naturally to you/us. There's always professionals we can go to for practical and emotional support. There's also Mumsnet :D

Try to enjoy the rest of your pregnancy as best you can and don't sweat the small stuff. Do you have a partner or husband who will be helping you? Lean on them plus friends and family for support.

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CobaltRose96 · 19/12/2018 23:29

Thank you all! It's reassuring to know that I'm not alone!

I have a wonderful fiancé who is being very supportive. He has four younger siblings (two of whom are a LOT younger) so lots of experience with babies. Both sets of grandparents are being very supportive too.

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Milligan123 · 20/12/2018 05:08

I know exactly how you feel I'm 28wks and feel excited and completely overwhelmed and scared hi*tless all the time!!! , I too have no real hands on experience with babies. Will be relying on friends and family for advice even tho it really irritates me when they keep telling me what I should or shouldn't be doing lol! I'm sure you and the rest of us will be be forever fine as another post says as long as she's, fed, warm, clean and safe we can make the rest up as we go along. Xxxx

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