I think I'm pregnant with someone I've been with for 6 weeks

[Porc3lain]

Hi all

First time posting, freaking out a little bit!!

I'm 27, and I'm currently a week late on my period,,some light brown spotting, feeling quite tired and nauseous...

I was pregnant last year with my previous partner who was abusive and I think a sociopath. It was the hardest thing I've ever done in my life but I had a termination last September - my baby would have been born in April, I called her or him Sage. It completely ruined me and still does. During the termination I had the Mirena coil fitted - I've just checked and I can't feel the strings which is definitely worrying! I found out at 6 weeks last time and had very similar symptoms, though if I drank any alcohol at all my body would chuck it back up again. I had a few glasses of wine last night before it properly hit me that I could be pregnant but didn't throw up, though I have heard that every pregnancy is different. I had my termination at 12 weeks and throughout that whole time I was throwing up 4-6 times a day, bloody awful!

The potential father is a little younger than me, 24, absolutely wonderful human being and very mature for his age. I knew him for a bit longer than I've been seeing him as I know him through work, but all in all it's really only been 4 months that he's been in my life. He spoke about marriage and kids on our first date (not with me of course, just generally), so I know that he wants to get married and have a big family... I'm probably getting ahead of myself here and will come on my period tomorrow but what the actual fuck do I do if I'm pregnant???? We are very well suited and I think he would be a great father, but I am petrified of the possibility of having a baby with someone that I haven't even known that long!! Does anyone have any experience with this, what did you do??

I will be taking a pregnancy test tomorrow, so will post what happens... I guess I'm here to freak out a bit and vent, but I have a feeling like I did last time that I am pregnant - I'm never, ever a week late. Any advice or comments would be really welcome x

Advice - don’t freak out / worry / celebrate till you actually know.
Good luck with testing tomorrow

Agree - I know it's impossible advice but please try not to freak out until you know for sure. Remember also that the Mirena can give spotting and irregular periods all on its own - I've had mine for years and after the first few months where apparently my body decided to have 5 years worth of periods, I haven't had a proper period since - just occasional spotting. So it could be the Mirena doing it as well.

Hmmm, well I was in the same position 18 years ago and dd is nearly 18. The bf is now my dh. We had known each other as friends for a couple of years before we'd started dating though. But it wasn't ideal and if I'm honest I don't think I'd have stayed with him if I hadn't got pregnant, but guess it worked out ok.

Take a test and see. If you are pregnant are you prepared to go it alone? Because even if he said fine, he will stand by you, etc he could potentially change his mind in six months, a year.......

I'd known DH two months total when we got a positive. Six years later we have two DS, a house and a nice life together. We work hard at being a good couple as we had no time beforehand to just be.

Take the test tomorrow. When I took mine, DH went to work out at the gym and I went on a massive long walk / phone call to long distance friend. We didn't know immediately what we wanted. You don't need to either.

What was the test result?