Unplanned 3rd preg. So confused!

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I frequent here usually for advice but this is my first post. I found out i am preg last week with our 3rd child. DD1 is 7 in may and DD2 jus turned 2 lastweek (found out we wer expectin on her bday). This was unplanned and i feel like an idiot for allowin this to happen. I dont feel excited. I feel the changes in my body and i am shunnin the feelins. My OH wants to keep baby but will support me either way. I am not so sure. Slight background. Jus moved in to lovely new house in nov which is perfect size for the 4 of us and been so happy with the move. We both hated our last house and area this left us arguing alot and kids we never allowed out due to area. Now they have a good area and freedom. Its rural and a car is mandatory to get around. Car wld no longer be big enuff and i cant afford to get a new car. No longer in cramped quarters but having a 3rd will put us bk to cramped living. Move took me 30miles away from family and friends so my support network is very diminished compaired to wen my girls wer young. OH works 12hr shift so is rarely here and isnt home until late. So for most part its jus me. DD2 is now old enuff to get explorin properly etc and i dont want them to miss out on that wen i cant get out on our land with newborn (land is not pram friendly) Financially we r gettin bk on evn keel n being able to live a little and i worry we wld go bk to strugglin for a few yr. Now i kno i sound completely against this but im not. Im jus tryin to be realistic. I also kno logically that we will cope. The baby will be loved and wen he/she is here all that worry wont matter. I can picture another mini us runnin around. Personally i feel our family is complete. My OH wld love a boy. Im so confused each time i think i can do this and think about the changes and that we will survive, my heads runs the opposite direction. I dunno whats best for family. I dnt want to jus survive i want to live again. We have jus moved into this new chapter and past the baby stages. Been talking alot about what we'll b gettin up to with girls once better weather comes in. After already carryin 2 i feel guilty to make this choice on having another child or not. Anyone else experiencing this. Am i overthinkin or being overly cautious or am i not alone in my thots X

I can’t give very much advice, but have you heard of the Multimac car seat? It’s a bank of 3 or 4 children’s car seats which fit into small to large cars, and has the versatility to accept children from 0-12, if you buy the baby seat that they make.

It would only solve the “car won’t contain three children” problem, but that’s a start...?

Also, have you considered a sling to transport a baby on your land? It would give you more flexibility than a pushchair or pram.

Good luck with your decision. I’m sure that if you have the baby things will work out, but I can see that it is not the easiest of situations to end up in!

Your 7 year old can use a booster seat and I think your two year old as well....that would solve the problem of your car...as only the baby would need a car seat. I see many families fit 3 kids in the back.

We have an all terrain buggy that goes everywhere-beach, farmland, fields, woods- it's fab. We have a mountain buugy but out and abouts are meant to be just as good- you can pick them up pretty cheap.

You're not alone, i have been here, I kinda still am. My head tells me this is not practical, you have so many plans and we're just starting the next chapter, how will this affect the kids, the house isn't big enough..... I could go on. My heart knows I'll love them as fiercely as the others and I couldn't live with terminating our baby. I'm in a loving marriage, we're not poor, we are healthy. It wasnt the plan but it's just meant to be I guess. I get everything you say, I've cried a lot but I knew deep down my answer I'm sure you do too. Lots of love to you, be kind to yourself x