High Anxiety, Pregablin and Pregnancy

[Madcelts]

Hi All

I need help in the worst possible way. We have just had our 12 week scan, and our little bean is beautiful and doing so well. Much better than his parents, we are both mentally and physically exhausted.

My partner pushed herself too far and has ‘broke’. I have tried to help her give up the cigarettes and she just can’t. I am having to nag her to take her pregnacare, and understandably she resents me for it. She also suffers from high level anxiety (really badly) and at the moment it is hitting really hard to the point she doesn’t want to get out of bed (and isn’t). She doesn’t want to take the pregablin because of the associated risks, though without it she doesn’t have any fight anymore. I’ve encouraged her to try and call the doctors so they can advise but knowing her as well as I do, its unlikely she will do so..

I’m tired, I’m scared and I’m trying to hold everything together. Does anyone else suffer from High Level Anxiety? Did you take pregalin?

All and any help welcome!

Stop nagging her to take the vitamins. They are not that important, certainly not worth stressing your partner and damaging your relationship.

All you can do is encourage her to be honest with the midwife and seek out help. You could speak with the midwife yourself and say that you think your partner needs support to quit smoking plus an urgent referral to perinatal mental health. They cannot actually tell you anything or compel your partner but they may be able to use the information. If your partner could consider vaping instead this would be better than smoking.

You can also tell her honestly that the impact on the baby of having a mother crippled with anxiety will be far worse than the marginal risks of the pregabalin. (And the smoking is probably much worse than the pregabalin would be anyway.) But if she can't get out of bed she may well be too ill to be rational and there's not much you can do.

I suffer high anxiety ... honestly I've been better for a couple years still work etc but there is days i just need to either be left alone or somebody supporting me ...

if my partner nagging me during a anxiety attack it would freak me out even more support her dont nag her give her a couple weeks to come around cuddle her let her know you are available.

and although you don't know what she's going through you'll try your hardest to understand anxiety is crippling enough ... maybe ask her to ask her dr for sertraline they've done wonders for me after others failed its a anti depressant im now off them.

Im pregnant just now and anxiety gets worse sometimes during pregnancy her hormones are still adjusting be kind to her.